Relocation and falsified address
DH has primary custody. The child custody papers state that my DH lives at an address which in reality is the address of Starbucks in a local mall. We did not ever live at Starbucks or even in the same city as the mall. The papers were written that way by the attorneys to help egg donor out. She refuses to learn to drive (men should escort women around in her opinion), she lived near the mall and worked there. It was a location that she could easily meet my DH at in order to pick up her child. I've been very opposed to it since the beginning, but I had no say in it. DH wanted her to be able to see her child, so he went along with it.
Fast forward 10 years. Egg donor is married. Her & her husband meet my DH closer to a halfway point between our 2 homes. The court docs have never been altered. We have moved out of county, but only about 15 mins further out. Egg donors husband is making threats to no longer 'do us a favor' by driving closer to the halfway point and is instead wanting to meet at Starbucks 'like the court paper work says'. My DH had enough (finally).
We want to change the court order to our real address. My concern is that we did move without notifying the court, although the address on the paper work was NEVER our actual address. Also, will the falsified address, which was done to help egg donor out, come back to haunt us as perjury or contempt of court since DH was an idiot and agreed to it? What kind of expense are we looking at?
Just change your address with
Just change your address with the court. It will not pose a problem unless BM tries to contest the move. What would pose a problem is if she files in court & they try to serve a Starbucks, not to mention any court documentation will go to the address you have listed. I know my DH loves his Starbucks - I sometimes wonder if they greet him by name but even then I doubt they will forward any court documentation.
Changing your address does not change the court order. If it says Starbucks then it is Starbucks. If it says Dad's home, then it is dad's home.
Do they have the money to
Do they have the money to front an attorney? It will cost a lot more to pay an attorney than it will for 8 more years of driving 50 miles every few weeks.
Your husband should tell them exactly that: "If you think its worth paying an attorney over this go ahead. I'll be at our mid-point meeting place and if you're at Starbucks and don't show up for a half hour I'm going home". Don't put it in writing however.
so im confused. your DH has
so im confused.
your DH has custody. is there an ex-wife in the picture or just an egg donor?
if its just an egg donor, why was visitation even set up? dont people usually get eggs and sperm without that person having any rights to see the child?
ohhhhh.... sorry ive been up
ohhhhh.... sorry ive been up since 4am today. lol!