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My fiancé and I recently paid over a third of the cost of a nice truck for my ss. He paid a third, and his other parents paid a third. After paying for it,instead of being excited he came home and punched the door and broke it because he was stressed that he had to pay for insurance and gas. when he got the truck, he never called and thanked us. NOT ONCE. Now he wants to register the truck and does not have enough money and wants to borrow some until he gets paid. I am tired of trying to make him happy and going out of my way for him and trying to be the hero when he is so ungrateful and shows me no respect!
Tell him no, he can get it
Tell him no, he can get it registered after he gets paid.
If he's showing you he really doesn't care about his truck (by punching it) then he can wait til HE has the money to get it registered.
Its not about making him happy, it's about getting him ready for the next step in life. Parents aren't always gonna float the bill. That's great that he had to pay a third for the truck, most kids (myself included) have to pay half, if not for the whole car.
He should be HAPPY that he has a truck, with little payment on his behalf, NOT bitch and moan because he needs to be responsible for insurance, gas, and upkeep.
Tell him he wanted the truck, he waited X am out of years to get it, what a few more days for it to get registered?
Well you won't make that
Well you won't make that mistake again. Sounds like this was not well thought out.
Agreed with the above. He
Agreed with the above. He clearly doesnt appreciate the fact you have all pitched in to help him gain what he wanted. So you dont put your hands in your pockets again for him. If he wants the responsibility of driving he needs to have the responsibility of budget control for all that comes with it.
oops I meant to say he
oops I meant to say he punched the bedroom door and broke it! knowing that we are trying to sell our house and after destroying his brand new carpet....etc.
After he pays for broken
After he pays for broken bedroom door ~ he can get truck registered n insured. I wouldn't do shot for this self righteous ass !
I read it as he damaged the
I read it as he damaged the truck but my comment still stands. If you help him out then he turns round and damages your property? Hell no, hes in the bad books and bank of parents shall remain shut.
Sounds like he has zero
Sounds like he has zero respect for property. This increases the mistake by ten fold. Obviously this is a guy (oaf) who needs to earn what he gets before he can respect it. The sale of the house is the perfect time to get him permanently out from under your roof. Does Daddy recognize his failings, his AND the kids?
What happens if he gets frustrated at you?
No, he wasn't 'stressed' he
No, he wasn't 'stressed' he had to pay for insurance and gas. What he was is angry aka p*ssed. The kid has some major entitlement issues. First, no thank-you for helping make the vehicle happen by paying a third, 2) assuming Dad/you would just pay for insurance and gas, 3) when finding out no he throws a freaking fit and puts his fist in the door.
The kid needs to be told his next paycheck is going towards a new door and not car insurance. Fact is a teen with such a temper shouldn't be driving a vehicle with this amount of immaturity at all for a while. Consider yourself lucky the teen wasn't out driving his new car when his next 'stressful' moment (disappointment) comes and wreck his car hurting himself and possibly innocent others,
Drugs? Yes its a clear
Drugs? Yes its a clear possibility unless his anger issues have been around a long time.
OH HELL NO.. would not have
OH HELL NO.. would not have gotten a penny from me.
update: today he called to
update: today he called to ask for the money and when I didn't respond immed. he said "are you gonna give me the f ing money or not?" made it very easy to say no. not changing my mind.
ty! so happy my man is
ty! so happy my man is staying strong with this too. ss keeps calling playing the victim that we never keep our word, that he has to tiptoe and be so careful how he talks to me etc... lol ummm you just shouldn't swear at me! and has anyone heard of 650 to register a truck? we are suspicious that his mother owes back taxes or something bc how could it be so high?
what does dup mean
what does dup mean
oh-now he is threatening ot
oh-now he is threatening ot call and borrow from friends and tell them we are too poor to give it to him. lol
Cat's 'dup' just means that
Cat's 'dup' just means that she edited the two post because when she posted the post managed to post several times instead of just the intended once...aka 'duplicate post'.
As to the teen telling all his friends you're poor, let him. I'm wondering why his father/you gave this little brat a third of the vehicle price to begin with. The destructive behavior, the cursing at you, and now the threats? The kid doesn't deserve the privilege of having his own vehicle especially one he only paid a third of. Both your husband and the teen's BM should seriously rethink allowing this brat to keep the vehicle.
Time for this kid to learn
Time for this kid to learn what it means to respect the home he is provided. Change the locks, take a pic of the hole in the door he punched, tape the pic to the front door with a note "Since you cannot respect your home. Find your own. Write when you have a new address. Good luck! "