For the first time in 8 years, DH decided to fall asleep in SD bed. I would understand if this was a continuation of babyhood, but to start now??? That's just weird. I'm thinking I might move. This is bizarre. Any input?
Did he just fall asleep accidently while he was in there talking to her or did he purposely plan on sleeping with her? If it's the latter I would be having a fit, that's not good!,
What's creepy is that SHE is insisting on it, she just started this stuff, like the baby food and the diapers and the bed wetting at 8!!! He fell asleep in her bed and then came to our bedroom, their door was open, he was not touching her, nothing sexual, but I am really starting to resent this girl. He used to brag that she was just like him, independent. These kids have so many issues and both parents think they are fine. Ugh ugh ugh
I believe someone hinted to some wrong doing, that is why I said that there was none.
DH is a Disneydad, she is the one that sets the pace in that relationship. There are children that seduce adults, and she is starting to be one of them. Older SD started some of that years back, he actually had to tell both of them that they are his daughters, not his wives...
I agree. But she she is here 1-2 days a week, so he feels guilty. Like tonight he is getting rid of them s we can go to a party.
He used to brag about how independent she was, comparing her to how needy my kids are, bla bla. Well, my kids have progressed fine, while she is reverting daily...
These are very simple people, they already told me to lay off their bad parenting, they know it's bad, but they think the kids will miraculously be perfect in time. Ugh
For your own mental health I advise you leave. Likely as not this child/parent relationship will turn out just fine in time - 99.9% do so without any outside help.
This is the strangest thing I have heard in a while! Your 8 year old SD wears a diaper and eats baby food? What in God's name is going on in that house??
I have to agree with the others though, that your DH is almost solely to blame for this. If he didn't let SD get away with it, she wouldn't be doing it. I totally understand about the daddy/daughter issues and my DH has VERY few boundaries with my SD, but I think even he would think this is absurd.
I am wondering WHY he decided to start sleeping with SD. I think that is very strange too, for that age.
They visit ONE DAY A WEEK, so telling her she needs to change everything that she is allowed (and even encouraged) to do at BM's house the rest 6 days is a bit of a stretch.
I have not said a word to DH. There is no improper sexual stuff, and nothing creepy intitiated by DH, so her disturbances do not concern me. Just venting.
What she's allowed to do in mom's home is mom's issue. Your husband is making the CHOICE to allow the craziness to continue in your home. He has the power to end this madness at any time. Of course that will require him to reattach his balls and actually parent.
Bizarre behaviour like this doesn't just randomly spring up out of nowhere. Something has happened to make her act like a baby, and personally I would find that extremely alarming. If your DH was a good father at all he would attempt to figure this out. That's my opinion.
I think there is some funny business with the live-in boyfriend at BM's house. I am not saying he is molesting them, but he is closer to their age than BM's age.
DH needs to find some counselling for SD ASAP and have someone get to the bottom of this. I am perfectly serious about this. There is no doubt in my mind that someone is damaging this girl.
Both parents refuse counseling. She was perfectly fine when she left my house three weeks ago, came back like some Chucky Doll, all weird baby behavior and spazzing and bossy as hell. She is acting just like BM. Psychoooooo
Hell, the 8year old year old might be the only sane one in the whole batch. She has managed to get both parents to comply with her idiotic requests. She's going to have a field day with those two nuts when she hits puberty.
You nailed it, Sista! I am already getting worried about not sticking around for that one...LOL
Well, my boundaries are in place. Financially, emotionally, physically, and mentally (because of you guys). So...Let all four of them enjoy each other's dysfunction...
I came on this site to have a good old VENT about my 3 FT Skids....and hear others stories about theirs.....I never thought I would be defending one.
Either this is one very manipulative child with an extremely lazy slack BM or there is something seriously wrong happening in her life. That diaper and baby food behaviour is bizarre to the max. To allow this behaviour to continue and do nothing about it or investigate it is even MORE bizarre.....BY ALL ADULTS.
I could be wrong and she could totally being do all this for attention, but the fact that none of the adults has done anything to stop or investigate the behaviour leads me to believe she actually needs the attention.
How could anyone as an adult allow what was once a reasonably normally behaviour Skid. and mean normal as in NOT wearing diapers and eating babyfood, to suddenly regress into this behaviour and not even question it??? I will be up front, I do not like my 3 Skids, they are all the things people complain about on this site and more some BUT as an adult, if nothing else it is my moral duty to make sure no harm comes to them, it should come instinctively as an adult human.
Will reiterate again, I DO NOT LIKE MY SKIDS, you need to understand this so that you get the full impact of the story.
A few months back SD15 had a part time job in a kitchen at her bio-Aunts work while on holidays. I just laughed when they said this kid was going to work because she is the laziest sneakiest kid I've met. Anyways, it lasted 2 days and then I was told she had no more work. I gloated and said she probably got the sack for being a dumb ass.
Anyways, I hear the story from my husband that the SD15 had told the owner of the business that he was a creep. Now, SD15 is a smart mouth, not to me, but she is to others. So I waited. I waited for her to come back from her holidays because I was going to rip into her for being so rude and disrespectful, for embarrassing her Aunt at her place of work, for not being able to hold a part time job for longer than 2 days.
So, I ask her, did you call your boss a creep? Yes, I did she says. I am gobsmacked that she admitted it, I fully expected her to lie. I am like, WHAT THE HELL? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? WHY???
Because he was tickling me in the ribs while I was washing dishes.
End of ripping into SD15. I get husband to ring Aunt and confirm, yes, story is true. So SD15 was getting tickled in the ribs by a grown man while she had her back to him and hands in water. I THINK NOT! I told that girl that she had every right to say what she did and that she was to say it again if ANYONE ever touched her in a way she didn't like. AND IT WAS JUST INSTINCT AS AN ADULT AND A WOMAN THAT MADE ME SAY AND ACT THIS WAY.
I am all with you. I took older SD to counseling in the beginning of this mess and was told later to not ever take her again because "it encourages her to act badly"...yep.
This is a messed up group of people. It is nauseating to watch them "parent" these poor creatures. I was told "worry about your own kids and stay out of mine". So, I do just that.
CPS once went to their school to investigate a complaint (not mine, maybe the therapist's) and BM and DH and all of them FREAKKKEEED OUT thinking I might have had something to do with it and told me to 100% stay out of their parenting.
Did he just fall asleep
Did he just fall asleep accidently while he was in there talking to her or did he purposely plan on sleeping with her? If it's the latter I would be having a fit, that's not good!,
What's creepy is that SHE is
What's creepy is that SHE is insisting on it, she just started this stuff, like the baby food and the diapers and the bed wetting at 8!!! He fell asleep in her bed and then came to our bedroom, their door was open, he was not touching her, nothing sexual, but I am really starting to resent this girl. He used to brag that she was just like him, independent. These kids have so many issues and both parents think they are fine. Ugh ugh ugh
You resent a child who
You resent a child who clearly has problems, but not your husband who refuses to even acknowledge those problems???? :?
Why would the sexual thing
Why would the sexual thing even pop into your head? That is s just sick.
I believe someone hinted to
I believe someone hinted to some wrong doing, that is why I said that there was none.
DH is a Disneydad, she is the one that sets the pace in that relationship. There are children that seduce adults, and she is starting to be one of them. Older SD started some of that years back, he actually had to tell both of them that they are his daughters, not his wives...
I agree. But she she is here
I agree. But she she is here 1-2 days a week, so he feels guilty. Like tonight he is getting rid of them s we can go to a party.
He used to brag about how independent she was, comparing her to how needy my kids are, bla bla. Well, my kids have progressed fine, while she is reverting daily...
These are very simple people, they already told me to lay off their bad parenting, they know it's bad, but they think the kids will miraculously be perfect in time. Ugh
So an 8 year ood who is
So an 8 year ood who is reverting to infancy, is now mature enough to start seducing a grown man. But not just any man, her own father. :?
This has to be a joke.
For your own mental health I
For your own mental health I advise you leave. Likely as not this child/parent relationship will turn out just fine in time - 99.9% do so without any outside help.
Hey, I'm blaming all of them,
Hey, I'm blaming all of them, but she IS creepy. I cannot stand being around any of them, and neither does DH.
Oh no no no! He is not sexual
Oh no no no! He is not sexual with her. Absolutely not.
I would walk. This situation
I would walk. This situation is not normal.
This is the strangest thing I
This is the strangest thing I have heard in a while! Your 8 year old SD wears a diaper and eats baby food? What in God's name is going on in that house??
I have to agree with the others though, that your DH is almost solely to blame for this. If he didn't let SD get away with it, she wouldn't be doing it. I totally understand about the daddy/daughter issues and my DH has VERY few boundaries with my SD, but I think even he would think this is absurd.
I am wondering WHY he decided to start sleeping with SD. I think that is very strange too, for that age.
They visit ONE DAY A WEEK, so
They visit ONE DAY A WEEK, so telling her she needs to change everything that she is allowed (and even encouraged) to do at BM's house the rest 6 days is a bit of a stretch.
I have not said a word to DH. There is no improper sexual stuff, and nothing creepy intitiated by DH, so her disturbances do not concern me. Just venting.
What she's allowed to do in
What she's allowed to do in mom's home is mom's issue. Your husband is making the CHOICE to allow the craziness to continue in your home. He has the power to end this madness at any time. Of course that will require him to reattach his balls and actually parent.
Bizarre behaviour like this
Bizarre behaviour like this doesn't just randomly spring up out of nowhere. Something has happened to make her act like a baby, and personally I would find that extremely alarming. If your DH was a good father at all he would attempt to figure this out. That's my opinion.
I think there is some funny
I think there is some funny business with the live-in boyfriend at BM's house. I am not saying he is molesting them, but he is closer to their age than BM's age.
DH needs to find some
DH needs to find some counselling for SD ASAP and have someone get to the bottom of this. I am perfectly serious about this. There is no doubt in my mind that someone is damaging this girl.
Both parents refuse
Both parents refuse counseling. She was perfectly fine when she left my house three weeks ago, came back like some Chucky Doll, all weird baby behavior and spazzing and bossy as hell. She is acting just like BM. Psychoooooo
Your husband is just as
Your husband is just as psycho as the BM.
Hell, the 8year old year old might be the only sane one in the whole batch. She has managed to get both parents to comply with her idiotic requests. She's going to have a field day with those two nuts when she hits puberty.
You nailed it, Sista! I am
You nailed it, Sista! I am already getting worried about not sticking around for that one...LOL
Well, my boundaries are in place. Financially, emotionally, physically, and mentally (because of you guys). So...Let all four of them enjoy each other's dysfunction...
I came on this site to have a
I came on this site to have a good old VENT about my 3 FT Skids....and hear others stories about theirs.....I never thought I would be defending one.
Either this is one very manipulative child with an extremely lazy slack BM or there is something seriously wrong happening in her life. That diaper and baby food behaviour is bizarre to the max. To allow this behaviour to continue and do nothing about it or investigate it is even MORE bizarre.....BY ALL ADULTS.
I could be wrong and she could totally being do all this for attention, but the fact that none of the adults has done anything to stop or investigate the behaviour leads me to believe she actually needs the attention.
How could anyone as an adult allow what was once a reasonably normally behaviour Skid. and mean normal as in NOT wearing diapers and eating babyfood, to suddenly regress into this behaviour and not even question it??? I will be up front, I do not like my 3 Skids, they are all the things people complain about on this site and more some BUT as an adult, if nothing else it is my moral duty to make sure no harm comes to them, it should come instinctively as an adult human.
Will reiterate again, I DO NOT LIKE MY SKIDS, you need to understand this so that you get the full impact of the story.
A few months back SD15 had a part time job in a kitchen at her bio-Aunts work while on holidays. I just laughed when they said this kid was going to work because she is the laziest sneakiest kid I've met. Anyways, it lasted 2 days and then I was told she had no more work. I gloated and said she probably got the sack for being a dumb ass.
Anyways, I hear the story from my husband that the SD15 had told the owner of the business that he was a creep. Now, SD15 is a smart mouth, not to me, but she is to others. So I waited. I waited for her to come back from her holidays because I was going to rip into her for being so rude and disrespectful, for embarrassing her Aunt at her place of work, for not being able to hold a part time job for longer than 2 days.
So, I ask her, did you call your boss a creep? Yes, I did she says. I am gobsmacked that she admitted it, I fully expected her to lie. I am like, WHAT THE HELL? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? WHY???
Because he was tickling me in the ribs while I was washing dishes.
End of ripping into SD15. I get husband to ring Aunt and confirm, yes, story is true. So SD15 was getting tickled in the ribs by a grown man while she had her back to him and hands in water. I THINK NOT! I told that girl that she had every right to say what she did and that she was to say it again if ANYONE ever touched her in a way she didn't like. AND IT WAS JUST INSTINCT AS AN ADULT AND A WOMAN THAT MADE ME SAY AND ACT THIS WAY.
I am all with you. I took
I am all with you. I took older SD to counseling in the beginning of this mess and was told later to not ever take her again because "it encourages her to act badly"...yep.
This is a messed up group of people. It is nauseating to watch them "parent" these poor creatures. I was told "worry about your own kids and stay out of mine". So, I do just that.
CPS once went to their school to investigate a complaint (not mine, maybe the therapist's) and BM and DH and all of them FREAKKKEEED OUT thinking I might have had something to do with it and told me to 100% stay out of their parenting.