Mine are mostly older now, but when they were in high school I did very little honestly. I went to a few music shows, a couple of "meet the teacher" nights at the school, but that was about it. (I should say I went with DH - no way would I have done any of that on my own, I am NOT their parent!)
None, nothing, zilch. Not my monkies. DH and BM are the parents. It is their responsibility.
That being said, if you want to attend because you enjoy it then that is different. Or if DH asks you to attend something, i.e. graduation, and you go for him, also different.
Boils down to doing it because you want to do it, not because you are suppose to.
You guys are making me feel so much better! I always felt like I had to attend practically everything (aside from patent teacher conferences) and I can't STAND being around BM, I still get sick to my stomach. Now I realize I was just trying to put on the nice, involved Stepmom image. Well I'm over that!
Back to school night, parent teacher conference, therapy session NONE. Like the above poster said not my monkeys. School concerts, sports, award ceremonies, only if it is after work hours and only if SO asks me. He knows I will NOT take off work for school concerts and such and he doesn't much either, we have bills to pay. I missed plenty of my bios things because I had to work. I made sure I was at the important things, the once in a lifetime things. Plus I have my own kids and they have activities on weekends and evenings.
I go to just about everything. BM rarely attends anything even though her house is a mile from the school that SS attends and we are about 25 miles away. SD is primarily with us so her events are at least close. DH and I almost always attend together unless there are conflicting kid events, then we divide and conquer.
My favorite was when DH was out of state for work and SS had a science fair at school. I got off work, drive down there to find out that BM wasn't going to take him (he'd worked hard on this project). So, I stopped at BM's on the way and picked up skids, took them and had a great time and even FaceTimed with DH so he could see the kids/projects. My in-laws were there too, we took the kids out to eat afterwards and then dropped them back off at BM's.
We've been to 3 football games so far this year and haven't seen BM once. Everyone wins!
I do everything when it comes to my BD11, when SO was still living with us he would go to some of her things. I didn't ask him to, I would put her stuff on the calendar and he would offer to come which she appreciated because her dad lives over an hour away and doesn't make it to anything. But I never went to anything for SD8, wait, she didn't do anything! BM was too lazy to take her to a scout meeting one day a week out of the month or anything else that BD11 does and we had her 50/50 and BM would say she couldn't partcipate in anything that "fell on her time". Plus I couldn't stand shit stain anyways so the thought of being with her and cum dumpster (BM) in the same room turned my stomach.
I attend everything for my SS because we have a great relationship. Neither DH or I speak to BM when we're all together except to maintain a some normalcy for SS. We used to all be much more amicable but recently, BM has gotten really nasty (again) and we're over it.
zero. i went to one dance
zero. i went to one dance recital and she was so rude to me and her father, barely acknowledging our presence that i said never again.
she only plays one sport and she's not very good.
parent teacher conferences are for parents. im not her mother or father so i have no place going.
Mine are mostly older now,
Mine are mostly older now, but when they were in high school I did very little honestly. I went to a few music shows, a couple of "meet the teacher" nights at the school, but that was about it. (I should say I went with DH - no way would I have done any of that on my own, I am NOT their parent!)
I do nothing. BM is crazy and
I do nothing. BM is crazy and I don't want to ever be in the same room as her.
None, nothing, zilch. Not my
None, nothing, zilch. Not my monkies. DH and BM are the parents. It is their responsibility.
That being said, if you want to attend because you enjoy it then that is different. Or if DH asks you to attend something, i.e. graduation, and you go for him, also different.
Boils down to doing it because you want to do it, not because you are suppose to.
You guys are making me feel
You guys are making me feel so much better! I always felt like I had to attend practically everything (aside from patent teacher conferences) and I can't STAND being around BM, I still get sick to my stomach. Now I realize I was just trying to put on the nice, involved Stepmom image. Well I'm over that!
Back to school night, parent
Back to school night, parent teacher conference, therapy session NONE. Like the above poster said not my monkeys. School concerts, sports, award ceremonies, only if it is after work hours and only if SO asks me. He knows I will NOT take off work for school concerts and such and he doesn't much either, we have bills to pay. I missed plenty of my bios things because I had to work. I made sure I was at the important things, the once in a lifetime things. Plus I have my own kids and they have activities on weekends and evenings.
I go to just about
I go to just about everything. BM rarely attends anything even though her house is a mile from the school that SS attends and we are about 25 miles away. SD is primarily with us so her events are at least close. DH and I almost always attend together unless there are conflicting kid events, then we divide and conquer.
My favorite was when DH was out of state for work and SS had a science fair at school. I got off work, drive down there to find out that BM wasn't going to take him (he'd worked hard on this project). So, I stopped at BM's on the way and picked up skids, took them and had a great time and even FaceTimed with DH so he could see the kids/projects. My in-laws were there too, we took the kids out to eat afterwards and then dropped them back off at BM's.
We've been to 3 football games so far this year and haven't seen BM once. Everyone wins!
I do everything when it comes
I do everything when it comes to my BD11, when SO was still living with us he would go to some of her things. I didn't ask him to, I would put her stuff on the calendar and he would offer to come which she appreciated because her dad lives over an hour away and doesn't make it to anything. But I never went to anything for SD8, wait, she didn't do anything! BM was too lazy to take her to a scout meeting one day a week out of the month or anything else that BD11 does and we had her 50/50 and BM would say she couldn't partcipate in anything that "fell on her time". Plus I couldn't stand shit stain anyways so the thought of being with her and cum dumpster (BM) in the same room turned my stomach.
My SS is boring as hell as
My SS is boring as hell as has no interests, so he doesn't do any extracurriculars. I don't have to worry about it.
I attend everything for my SS
I attend everything for my SS because we have a great relationship. Neither DH or I speak to BM when we're all together except to maintain a some normalcy for SS. We used to all be much more amicable but recently, BM has gotten really nasty (again) and we're over it.