i assume y'all saw this nonsense out of NJ
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https://gma.yahoo.com/parents-ordered-pay-estranged-daughters-college-tu...
insane! what is wrong with the world today? its been like this for years with divorced parents, but this is different entirely.
Just read this. Another
Just read this. Another entitled SD. Maybe if more kids do this, they will change the legislation in these states against Divorced parents. We don't make intact families do this...Why punish them further, because they can't make their marriage work.
Total brat!
Actually NJ just passed
Actually NJ just passed limited alimony. My mom finalized her divorce today and she only has to pay limited alimony to her ex! (She's happy!)
This is going to be my SD in
This is going to be my SD in 12 years. My husband's CO says he has to pay 92% of her college tuition. His lawyer told him that if he doesn't pay, then SD will have to be the one to sue him for it, not BM.
Stacey, what do you mean?
Stacey, what do you mean?
He didn't agree. It's
He didn't agree. It's standard in Alberta. It's based on their income ratios.
It's pretty stupid. Just
It's pretty stupid. Just because your parents split up, you can make them pay for your college tuition? Kids from intact families can't do that.
So my husband will have to pay for SD's tuition by law, but not DD's.
I don't even know if there's a cap on it. So if SD wants to go to Harvard, I guess my husband is paying. (Unlikely given her genetic material though.)
Encourage her to go to
Encourage her to go to hairdressing school.
^THIS^ It's unfortunate, but
^THIS^
It's unfortunate, but if anything about the parents paying for college at all was in the original paperwork, then they're stuck. This happened to us. DH and SD had a strained relationship, and NJ required him to pay 65% of her tuition where ever she chose even though the original paperwork didn't specify the amounts each parent was to pay.
The parents' mistake was to not file for emancipation earlier. If the girl had moved to her grandparents 2 years prior, then they should have filed with the courts to prevent this.
That all said, I don't understand why a judge wouldn't take everything into consideration and treat each case on its own. Neither parent wants to pay, so wtf?!
It's awful that people have to think about stuff like this these days, but being related doesn't prevent ugly legal matters. My father gifted myself and my two brothers percentages of our family business. My oldest brother is estranged from us, and decided to demand he get money for his shares of this business (that he has nothing to do with). So he is basically cashing in his inheritance while our father is still alive, and doing it to try to hurt us. It's disgusting. If he were college age, I wouldn't be surprised if he tried to do what this girl is doing to her parents.
This is a new kid and the
This is a new kid and the parents only were married a short time, but raised her amicably and the damn grandparents paid for the lawyer.
Just another example of being
Just another example of being forced to keep grown adult child on the tit! Totally Crazy!!!
If this happened to my BF I
If this happened to my BF I would leave him. I already pay for most of the expenses because of CS. Not paying for kids college. I paid my own they can too.
Seriously ridiculous. I would
Seriously ridiculous. I would have to counter sue for being emotionally traumatized for having such a bitch for a daughter.
In all seriousness, I would fight this. In fact, all parents who are forced to pay for their children's college should stand up and fight it.
Oh, boo hoo, "all she wanted to do was go to college". Then figure out a way to do it.
My DH considered fighting it.
My DH considered fighting it. We are in NJ, and he was required to pay 65% of tuition to ANY SCHOOL OF SD'S CHOICE. She chose a $50k per year school, that is basically for rich kids who aren't smart enough to get into better schools.
The ONLY reason he didn't appeal it is that he did want to help SD, and always intended to help her. He just hated that the court ordered him, and he had no say in any of it. He felt that SD would never be able to afford college on her own, and as her father, he felt obligated to help as much as he could. He was worried that fighting it would harm their relationship.
Funny thing now is that SD graduated a year and a half ago, and is by choice only a waitress. So much for the fancy education!
It's ridiculous to me that in
It's ridiculous to me that in some states divorced parents are forced to pay for college yet nuclear families are not. Who made up that stupid law anyway? I wish someone would fight it. My SO divorced in a state where he has to pay. The amount is based on a middle of the road school though, if they decide on Harvard he wouldn't have to pay that amount.
I divorced in a state where it's not forced. I'm glad. Of course my ex and I will be helping with college but on OUR terms.
yes, that is how its done
yes, that is how its done here in MA - my fiance (and bm) each have to pay 1/3 of tuition based on UMass Amherst.
my fiance was smart enough to get wording in htere that its 1/3 of tuition ONLY (not room and board) and then its tuition AFTER all grants, scholarships, work study is applied. BM wanting to be there hero said she'd pay 100% of room and board.
probably moot anyway as SD will probably not go to college or if she does it will only be community college.