My stepson has been with us since he was 13, mom has always been royalty even though she has been out of the picture on and off. My husband went to prison 4 months ago, since day one, my SD was giving me headaches... going out with friends, paid for all his expenses, mom didn't want to help with nothing. He didn't do anything around the house, no cutting grass nothing. I had a fundraiser last month for his dad, to cover the travel expeses, he couldn't help one bit...because he was too hungover. He basically doesn't bother about anything around the house. On Friday my husband told me to take my car to those lube express to change the oil in my car, and for him to do the same. He had just gotten his first check, when I told him he didn't want to pay for it, he wanted to change the oil on his own. NOTE: he has only seen my husband do it once. My husband said no that he needed to take it to the lube. My SS went to the extend of buying the oil to change it with a couple of his friends. His car is under my name I have been paying for it always, since my husband couldn't work, due to house arrest. I told him that he wasn't going to change it that I was responsible for the car and when he paid for his own thing he can experiment all he wanted. Long story short...He left to his moms, left the car, told me to do whatever i wanted with it. He came earlier to get all of his stuff...i was nice to him, I didn't apologize because i don't feel i have done anythign wrong....i told him that he might only have this months gym membership and also his cell phone..that to tell his mom to take care of it, so he can get sort out. Oh also told him to leave the house key...becasue i know he will be coming just to your my house as a hotel room with his girlfriend. He didn't like it one bit..he left and txt me awful things how he couldn' believe i was like that, if his dad only knew (which he does know everything) i told him that he was the one that decided to leave, I never once told him i never wanted him. He said that his mom can barely make ends meet but that he will settle for it...WHICH we both earn exactly the same yearly!! and i have a mortgage payment she doesn't. I don't know how to feel about this...he was giving me a lot of headaches and my husband knows it. My husband is now sad at the whole situation...and I find myself second guessing if i was too harsh in not paying for his things.

please help..im willing to do whatever if i was wrong...the thing is that my stepson has a lot of pride and wont admit he was wrong. he probably wants me to beg for him to stay. Please help