We have an interesting day in court in the near future. My husband has responsibly and beautifully done his duty to SD. Above and beyond. She is >21 now and he has been trying to get child support payments over with. For 17 years he has paid, including full medical insurance, and even frivolous shit like her cell phone.

I am quite ill and unable to work, trying to get disability. I just retired by necessity after a surgery for a rare progressive disease.

SD is almost done with college, local, on a full scholarship. She is 21 1/2. She is living at her boyfriend's house 3-5 days a week and working 30 or more hours a week. She stays at BM house 2-3 days a week.

She is estranged from me and my kids, not due to anything we did but because she got mad at my mother, who has rarely seen her except on vacations they invited her to (and paid her way for). My mom made a Facebook post that was nothing about her, but apparently that is the problem. We were actually close before that, or so I thought, but apparently not. My kids and I were heartbroken. My husband as well. We also just lost family members this year and are still grieving. Not the best year. BM even phoned my MIL with 20 years of complete bull about "horrors" experienced at my house. She and SD are quite the fiction writers. Here, we always thought we all had fun and love. Silly us.

So, the "child support". BM sent a letter to the house. She accused DH of trying to shirk responsibilities and that her lawyer told her child support is required in our state until age 24. Lie. Like most states, it is 18, with some exceptions. In our state, it's 18 but Adult Child Support (snort) can sometimes be obtained if the adult-children are still in high school or unsafe conditions are present without support, etc. BM then complained about her and her husband's medical bills. Not kidding. Apparently we are supposed to keep funding their medical bills.

Perhaps we should check with our insurance to see if we can get BM and her husband on our family medical plan, too. Just kidding.

Anyway, we have a solid case, being our household loss of income, inability to buy food or pay utilities without handouts, my disability, oh and the fact that SD is A FREAKING ADULT. But it irks me how much a headache this is. A decent person would see the appropriateness, but BM has made it clear she will show up and make a scene.

Why can't people just be...decent people?

To add insult to injury, it turns out SD is participating in heavy partying and sexual deviancies (multiple partner shit) with her boyfriend. No huge surprise, her mother's been nuts, her siblings in jail etc but we were hoping she would be ok. I find myself wishing we had had custody, instead of every other weekend; my kids have turned out very well, very kind mature people and I think we could have had a big impact on her. My poor husband.