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complaining bm about more time

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Submitted by bmssuck on Sat, 03/28/2015 - 9:48pm

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Noncustodial bm wants more

time. But when more time is given she wants to bring sd13 back. And we should just come get her. She doesn't want to drive her to school when her other kids are on spring break. Will it hurt a custody case she may bring up sooner rather than later if we say we're busy get her to school, she waited till the day before. This womens goal in life is to mess with us. So while I've been here taking care of a kid she couldn't have (being on drugs she signed over custody), she bad mouths me and makes up lies about me. I thought time and effort and showing sd not to lie, steal, trying to be a good example. But she hates me.. shes rude to her dad when im not around. I've told her that is unacceptable and she will be grounded if I see it. Should wego get her early or make bm figure out how to get to sd to school. Sd says bm can take care of her now. School is important to sd and they have testing this week. Should we show her what life would be like over there?

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Sun, 03/29/2015 - 4:45am

Give BM the extra time she asks for and then when she calls for you to come pick her up early tell her you can't. It's BMs responsibility to get her kid to school when SD is with her even in extra time. I think a judge will consider It a point in your favor that you gave BM more time and BM failed to be a parent during that time and get her kid to school. If you keep going to pick up the kid early then BM will keep asking for time then bailing on you. Yeah sure you can keep documenting but the judge won't care, all hell see is DH being flexible to BMs schedule and that's working now so he can keep doing it.

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Submitted by notarelative on Sun, 03/29/2015 - 9:52am

If school is important to SD and you want it to continue to be important I'd pick her up so that SD could attend school. You want SD to know that you believe school attendance is important. You want to be the parents who show the judge that school is a priority.

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Submitted by bmssuck on Sun, 03/29/2015 - 11:09am

Well we agreed to pick her up and now bm is trying to get someone from church(doesnt everyone use church to get stuff?lol)to drive her and sd to school. Bm doesn't know what she wants and we're stuck with it to be there for sd(who has been rude on the phone when her dad called.)And now sd doesn't know where she is sleeping, its sad, but shows her how up in the air everything is over there.Too bad hoochie clothes and walking wherever she wants(at 13) is more appealing then a stable home. Professionals say a stable home is what the kids will want, then how come some children want to go to the more fun home where its everything goes? I remember moving with my mom so someone would stay on me about school, and grades, and wouldnt ignore me(I was 12). Thats why I have a hard time understanding her attitude when bm is around her mom and when sd gets home. I know the bm bad mouths us but the proof is in everday life.

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Submitted by bmssuck on Sun, 03/29/2015 - 11:48am

Now she can take her. About time she figured something out.Thx church people. We didn't wanna look at that lying bm.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sun, 03/29/2015 - 3:06pm

The advice here is confusing me, but maybe I read the post wrong. BM wants more time but then gives the kid back early.

Wouldn't the OP (assuming they do NOT want BM having more time) want to pick the skid up and document every single time the kid was sent back early? That way if BM petitions for more time, you can show the court that she sent the child home early on 24 of 50 visits, etc.