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Redsonya's picture

Hi all!

You might remember me from last year - my ex-DH took his life in my house and all hell broke loose with the Skids over his meager belongings, even though I personally packed up everything and delivered it to them on his trailer.

I am happy to say that DD6 and I are doing GREAT! We are both in counseling with an amazing therapist. And.....the $30,000 of life insurance that I had on DH when we were married was accidentally kept in place by my HR department after we divorced. I only found out in December when I renewed by benefits package so I just got the insurance payout. DD6 and I have a Spring Break houseboat trip next week and a Caribbean cruise in November booked with it. Of course, when the skids got wind of the money through a mutual friend, they wanted part of it, but I am the sole beneficiary and I own the policy so I told them that I would treat them with the same amount of compassion and caring that they treated DD6 with when their dad died - which is none at all and they weren't getting a cent:)

Meanwhile, BM moved the 21-year old former student from the high school she works at into the house she shared with the skids and got pregnant with him a month after ex-DH died. A 44-year old hag with a 21-year old very immature little boy. I see that going really well, lol. SD20 moved up north for college and because the 21-year old boy toy was "mean" to SS15 - he is now living with his sister. That should be fun for her. SS15 is a mess and has a mean, nasty, filthy mouth towards everyone. All I keep saying is "not my circus, not my monkeys" over and over. Now that I have had real peace in my life, my big beautiful house back just for me and DD6, tons of plans with long-time friends, and even a couple men with money of their own interested, I don't think I'll ever get married again. What I had before was not worth it, lol!

classyNJ's picture

Happy to hear everything is going great.

But it never ceases to amaze me how entitled kids can feel!!! :jawdrop:

Enjoy your vacations!! You earned them!

bearcub25's picture

The good side of Karma comes around. That is awesome. I think if it were me, if I ever heard a skid name uttered, I would plug my ears and go lalalallalalallala.

My SS21 is with a 42yo...same age as BM. I tell a friend, it must be the size of his penis bc the kid is dumb as a box of rox and has no job.

Redsonya's picture

It is the best karma ever:) I have so moved on that I don't even care what happens to the skids. I used to hear about it from mutual friends but I don't really see them anymore so its been quiet and lovely!

bearcub25's picture

Oh and I hope you never talk to the mutual friend that ratted you out to the skids. I feel the same way....if its thru my work and I paid for it, I am getting the money and the amount skids would get would depend on their level of respect which = 0.

Redsonya's picture

I cut ties with all of ex-DH's family and any mutual friends - onwards and upwards!

Redsonya's picture

LOL! I sure hope I don't either, but my therapist is a stepmom and she has been super helpful in discussing all the crazy that I surrounded myself with and establishing what I will and won't do or put up with ever again. I am really comfortable in my life right now - work is going fantastic, I have wonderful friends, my horses, my hobbies, and my daughter. Opening up my life for a man and his spawn sounds like the worst idea possible and just a lot of work. Maybe that will change someday, who knows:)

In the meantime, I am enjoying having a couple men that I have met spoil me (without meeting my daughter). I recently just borrowed one guy's penthouse on the Vegas strip to see the Taylor Swift concert with my daughter:) I remember looking around at this beautiful condo above the Venetian hotel, all expenses paid, dressed up the nines, and thinking how far I had come from the ragged, exhausted, depressed woman I was married to ex-DH and dealing with the gutter trash (BM and skids).

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

Awww That's a great story. I'm so happy you are at peace and got some money and you and your young daughter are enjoying it!!!!!

luchay's picture

Hey Smile I remember you!

So so happy for you and your DD6. You deserve all the happiness (and PEACE) in the world.

HolyShmokey's picture

Wow, I've been a forum reader for a long time. I joined recently, but I remember reading your stories and posts. All I can say is GOOD FOR YOU!!! So happy to hear it's going well and best of luck!