Divorcing a Narcissist. NY Times blog.

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http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/08/24/divorcing-a-narcissist/

I have a feeling quite a few people on this board will find this interesting.

Hi Chief! How's it going? I

Hi Chief! How's it going? I am resurfacing briefly and probably going back down again... it was a very intense summer and it's not over yet. Hope you and yours are well and cheerful!

I read the article. It was interesting to see NPD described as a "spectrum" disorder. That someone can have more or less traits of narcissism. That actually helped me a lot. Another thing that resonated deeply for our household was it describing narcissists as being unable to form true emotional bonds with spouses and children (paraphrasing). Ding ding ding! I've heard some people describe our bm as a narcissist but I wasn't sure. She's not that bad. Except when she is. So the spectrum thing really helped and the strange emotional detachment comment really helped.

Yes, the commenters hail from

Yes, the commenters hail from everywhere in terms of spectrum of dysfuntion.

If you click on the Join the Conversation button, you land on the Times Project Book Club page and there are three tabs that I suppose illustrate the points the author makes in her book: Who's a Narc, Should I Stay and How to Heal. There the comments are better organized and more coherent, I find.

great link! there are many

great link! there are many books on abusive and controlling relationships that dont use the word "narcissist" but its certainly implied.

in regard to how these narcissists treat their spouses in regards to the children, its important to know the spouse is a mere object and not a person. the children (the skids) are treated better because they are seen as extensions of the marcissist.