Need some Adivce
So my hubby has a son who is in an out of school organized sport that runs every weekend both Saturdays and Sundays, all month long, from September to March. The child is 5 please keep this in mind during the remainder of this epic rant.
Bio mom has him three weekends out of the month, my spouse has 1 weekend as he works away from home. So the weekends that he has the child he takes the little one to his sporting activity.
So bio-mom has been what I call "haning around" before the game and going into the locker room after the game which by anyone elses's view may not be a problem. However, the child at the end of every game noe the child has begun SCREAMING his face off throwing an absolute fit saying he "wants his mommy"
Spouse attempts to ask bio-mom if she could maybe excuse herself after the game and let them get dressed and leave without her "hanging around" and she blew lost her mind on him. She is a very controlling unbalanced type of an individual and my spouse all but told her he feels this is a bit of an intrusion on his parenting time with the child, that her pressence is making the weekends go harder than they should be when he has these meltdowns and then after, the child is very ignorant and misbehaved with my spouse for the remainder of the weekend. My spouse expressed that since she has him the entire rest of the month to go to games with him, that he didnt feel he was being unreasonable in asking her to take a "step-back" on his weekends and not intrude herself into their time together. Well it's all fallen on deaf ears and now it imploded last weekend when she (bio-mom) took the child away from him after his game in the midst of the child fit and screaming and scolded my spouse for "not doing anything about his screaming and crying" so "he's coming home with me". She took him in spite of court ordered visitation that states the time the child is to be returned to her, she took him a full 2 hours before the conclusion of his weekend with the child.
so my question is, is he wrong for asking for her to take a step back and eliminate the feeling that she is impeeding or intruding on his parenting time? and if he's not wrong how does one go about making the request possible another way that may be better recieved absent returning to court to have her banned from attending anywhere he is with the child during his parenting time?
Any suggestions are welcome
No, your DH is not out of
No, your DH is not out of line. BM is the one who needs to re-evaluate her presence. Next time, I would again ask her to please leave the locker room. I would even go as far as having a witness (who is not family) in case you need to take this to court. I would also speak to an attorney. You may need to go to court to get BM to back off. If it were me, since your SS is only 5 and mom causes issues at the games, I would strongly consider not even taking him to the game. Your DH does not HAVE to take him if games or practices are on his weekends. Yes, there is a time to consider what the child wants and needs but come on......at age 5, missing a few games will not mean he doesn't get a college a scholarship.
I agree with Sue, let the
I agree with Sue, let the parents handle it. Your DH will prob have to decide if this is worth going to court for; she's in contempt. Edit: and that's wayyy too much of an activity for a small child. He might be acting out because he's simply exhausted.
What sports for a 5 year old
What sports for a 5 year old happens every weekends sat and Sunday's for 7 months straight ? Insane . I would not take him if I were your DH . No need to see BM that one weekend at all .
Spouse is court ordered to
Spouse is court ordered to take the child to these weekend activites but the advise I recieved here definately will help! thank you all!