DH's sister has always been nasty bully to me. She is a jealous, insecure, competitive bitch who seriously acts like a child

One of the many nasty things she does on a regular basis, is make sure she sends the message loud and clear to me that I'm NOT part of their family, nothing more than her brother's wife and mean absolutely nothing to her or OSD...she would like to include FIL in that but he has always treated me like a loved and welcome DIL so she can only go so far with that one

She constantly pulls 'power trips' on me by having "family" conversations in my presence in fact any conversations deliberately meant to exclude me. She plans "family" events in which every member of the family - except me that is - is asked to participate while I'm just standing around as a non-entity. She still often won't even so much as say hello when she sees me! On a rare occasion at one of their family homes, If I dare to sit on a chair at the dining room table anywhere other than where she specifically has said I can sit (usually at the end of the table farthest away or if other 'guests' are present then down with them the non-family members) Once little SGS said at a family event that he wanted to sit by me and DH's sister actually threw a fit and say NO he would sit in the chair she put out for him and not by me...the child was about three at the time! The list of her crap goes on and on

Although below is just one more thing...just need to vent about it!

So somehow I get sucked into participating in a bridal shower for YSD (OSD only included me I believe because she wanted to prevent me from having a shower for YSD myself, so figured if she included me in the one she was throwing, along with BM and DH's sister then I wouldn't do it) - that's a whole other post!

Anyway, I figured DH's sister's attitude would be WHY is Disillusioned part of this. YSD's sister, mother (BM) and Aunt should throw it, but why should I - just her brother's wife not part of her FAMILY - be included

She is one to jump all over me for anything at all. She lies and makes things appear to be what they are not. If I so much as sneeze she will jump on that will all sorts of insinuated accusations and attitude meant to humiliate me and make me look bad- literally over nothing at all

So OSD sends an email to BM, DH's sister and I suggesting a conference call on the weekend to talk about her extensive Excel spreadsheet full of To-Do's for YSD's shower.

DH's sister responds by saying Saturday or Sunday she suggests are the best times

I respond to say that sounds good, Saturday would be best for me if it works for everyone else

DH's sister then says okay SUNDAY (and emphasizes it will be Sunday) it is, and how she is trying to find a day that works for everyone??????

She is the one who suggested SATURDAY or Sunday in the first place!

And although it seems totally harmless, it is just yet another little way of saying YOU Disillusioned do not get a say. You're not family blah blah blah, and also her little comment about trying to find a day that works for "everyone" is another little sarcastic 'it's not all about YOU Disillusioned, trying to make it work for all blah blah blah

I remind myself she is jealous and insecure, and so always has to exert her 'power' in an effort to remind me that SHE not I is the all important family and I'm nothing more than a pain in the ass outsider that has no value for her and she will never accept

I did respond but say I had about an hour on Sunday, as DH and I have an Open House to hold among other things (we're moving)

She makes my blood boil on some days!