Thanks everyone for the reply's, I have mentioned to him lightly and softly about how I feel. Its not that I think everyday should be beautiful, I am 42 years old and been there done that, its elements and action like mentioned above, when you start feeling like a roommate instead of a partner it is a concern I feel.
As for him I try and let him know I appreciate everything he does for me and I acknowledge his efforts.
Validation is important for anyone, who wants to be where they feel like they don't matter or exist,I have many friends but I want my best friend..there is a difference.
As for the comment to the sister in-law I don't feel it was respectable knowing how I have been feeling, I understand the sweetness of it all..but sweetness starts in the home before anyone or anything else. J/s

Thanks everyone for the reply's, I have mentioned to him lightly and softly about how I feel. Its not that I think everyday should be beautiful, I am 42 years old and been there done that, its elements and action like mentioned above, when you start feeling like a roommate instead of a partner it is a concern I feel.
As for him I try and let him know I appreciate everything he does for me and I acknowledge his efforts.
Validation is important for anyone, who wants to be where they feel like they don't matter or exist,I have many friends but I want my best friend..there is a difference.
As for the comment to the sister in-law I don't feel it was respectable knowing how I have been feeling, I understand the sweetness of it all..but sweetness starts in the home before anyone or anything else. J/s

Maybe I need to be a little bit more explicit on why I feel like this, the dynamics of it all !
We have no privacy, His mother, 37 year old sister and her son live with us.
His mother sold her house 2 yrs ago because it was to big, a little over 2 yrs and everyone is
still here and she has supposedly been trying to find a place since then, his sister who is 37 is a drug addict and refuses to get a job let alone raise her kid.
NO ONE helps us with groceries, I'm the only one who cleans up after everyone, his sister has stoled
from me and her brother endless times, she has called me everything but white, we have done nothing but help
out everyone, meanwhile his mother is looking for a house ( has been for 2 yrs),
Financially we cant afford them, I do horse rescues, plus I have a hobby farm going on and I am constantly busy if not outside then inside and both, I am COMPLETELY overwhelmed as I am sure he is to.
Then there is " US".... I have been under so much stress and pressure that I had chest pains to the
point I couldn't even speak a word.
I am needing something from him in this relationship that makes a couple a couple, I can withstand almost
any storm but I feel unappreciated and I feel like we both are being taken advantage of.
I feel like our relationship has not had a chance to even really take off, many people involved in this
because they are " Here". His mom is controlling and its been hard on me at times, I just want our own
life, our OWN issues and our OWN problems. His mom could of had a place a long time ago but it has to be
one to accommodate her & grown daughter and grandson, its been a VERY procrastinating situation.
A lot of elements are played into this, and the stress has been very high for sometime.
I just feel like I am " Here"..that's it ! To clean up messes and put up with choices that are not of
my own choosing, Like right now, grandson just got home from school, his mother just now woke up, she will
soon get dressed and haul butt, boyfriends mother just hit me up because there is something she wants to buy
from the store to go towards dinner that she wants to make and doesn't want to take it out of her own pocket,
we spent $350 in groceries last month, actually more like $400, so yes I do feel down and out and not
appreciated, I feel like I am using myself all up :/