So my story is lengthy so thank you for reading.... I’m new to this site and need direction on how to handle my 7 yr old SS. He is a huge Ma’am’s boy and actually walks all over her. Whines, cries, and manipulates her. When he’s with my SO, his dad he’s like another child, well behaved, respectful and has manners. My issue comes when I take care of him and his bio sister. She is awesome and then there’s him, he pushes the envelope, is rude, talks back and doesn’t mind. At one point my SO confronted the BM because he believed she was feeding the SS thoughts and talking crap to him. Her words were.... “I never said anything to him” which meant she said it to someone else in front of him. SS has made mention on multiple occasions that I’m not the BM, which I understand and except, I myself have two bio kids who have a great step mom and I know the roles are different and both valuable in there own ways. I can’t help but feeling that my SS is crappy to me because his BM, but of course she denies it and the fact he feels loyal to her. My SO always comes home and puts SS in his place and always backs me, but it doesn’t seem to stop it from happening the next time. After these talks BMhas texted me and tried to say she has behavioral issues with him due to our home, yet she’ll call my SO crying because the SS won’t listen to her or at school and he has to go to her house to devolving him. I’m just fed up and tired of the lack of accountability. If this is 7 what will 17 look like!