His mommy & her house hunt...
Well, just when I thought I was safe from my SS's mommy being our next door neighbor... the house she was going to rent a few miles away fell through. Now she's looking in our subdivision again! AAAAARRRRGGGGHHHH! I hate how she tries to make it sound like it's so much about how much her older son from her first marriage would enjoy living there because a few of his friends live in our subdivision. It is a large neighborhood, but it's OURS and she doesn't need to be there!
As much as I want my adorable SS to be nearby, I wish it didn't involve the package deal of having his mommy nearby... yeah, I know--keep wishing!!! 
I just hate the idea of her knowing our business--when we're home, when we're not, etc. She hasn't said anything inappropriate to my fiance (wedding in just 3 weeks!) or me lately, but I know something else will come. She's calling more frequently, though, to pass on cutesy details of things my SS has done. He's almost 4, so there are lots of growth/development/new "big boy" things right now. I want my fiance to know when these things are happening... I just wish it didn't take his ex- 10+ minutes to relay the stories.
He just sees that he's able to know about these new things with his son and doesn't realize what it's like for me to sit there and hear her LOUD, NASAL-Y voice coming through his cell phone. I'm choosing not to say anything to him and just trying to appreciate the fact that she's making the effort to tell my fiance what's going on with his child instead of keeping them apart. I know we could be in a bad situation with an evil ex-wife and I should be grateful that it is what it is... but women are territorial and I am a woman!
It's almost as if she won't forgive my fiance for moving on and being happy and she won't let go of the hold she has on him through their little boy.
Just needed to vent... Thanks for reading! Any comments are always appreciated!
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I think that she'll let go eventually.
My husband's ex sort of did the same (slightly) leading up to our wedding. It is a big pill for them to swallow. But, once your officially married, she should back off a bit. I think they can try to hold on to that last little bit of hope until it's 100% officially gone. And, even if they wouldn't even really want to be back with the ex - I think they still prefer having that link, that control rather than not having it. If that makes any sense.
Anyway, very best wishes with your wedding.... it's going to be great!
It's Like a Privacy Issue!
I understand exactly how you feel. Even though my husband's ex doesn't live in the same subdivision, she is too close for comfort.
You do have a point about the stories. When my stepson was that age the ex didn't tell my husband anything about what was going on with my stepson. So I guess that's the siver lining in the cloud for you!
Dawn
Smit
I couldn't stop laughing when I read your blog...especially about the part when you said women are territorial. I just realized yesterday after reading this little part of a book on sale that the new wife doesn't want to share her husband w/the ex wife. I finally discovered that this is how I was feeling all this time and never knew it. I ordered the book online, I'll let you all know if it is a good book when I read it. If her calls really bother you, you should tell your husband to limit her calls. That is irritating to hear her call your husband all the time with little things like that. It's like get a life lady, I bet she's single.