My boyfriend finally took a stand and told his daughter that she was no longer welcome in our home until she changed her attitude and learned to stop disrespecting and being defiant and had her mother come and get all of her belongings, right down to the bed in her room. I felt it was a little extreme, but something had to change. Mommy dearest gladly came to the rescue and continued to make excuses for her... I told the mother that she should not drop her off the next time she is so out of control that she can't handle her and that her daughter needed to learn not to be so defiant and disrespectful and learn to feel remorse and learn the words "I'm sorry" and it "was my fault"...

Now, this happened before my birthday (7/12). On my birthday I didn't receive a phone call wishing me a happy birthday from his daughter (nor did I expect that I would). My boyfriend's daughter's birthday is today - do you think I should call her?

Her dad did call her this a.m. and she was cold to him. He also sent her flowers and a card. He has not yet received a phone call thanking him for the flowers and probably won't. I don't blame him for not wanting the day to pass without acknowledging her birthday - but again, she blames everything on her father and is sooooooo ungrateful.

So, my question - should I call her and wish her a happy birthday even though I have essentially washed my hands of her (told both her mother and her father that I was going to "mind my business" like my boyfriend's daughter told me to do in my own home.