Satan's Sister bought the 12 year his 2nd razr in 6 months!!!
I'm not venting b/c I knew this would happen. Ss is 12, highly ill mannered, doesn't appreciate anything, and treats everyone like shit, and walks around like we just have to accept it.
Last March bm bought ss a razr when they were $300, only for him to lose it while grandma washed it in her laundry. Even then, bm stated this was the only one she was buying him, and if he ruined it or lost it, he was out a cell phone. That lasted a whopping 2 months. So tonight, ss called dh to let him know he got another razr.
My dh and I just replaced our cell phones, and razr's now with a rebate on a plan are $99 after rebate..so this year alone she has spent $400.00 on a cell phone for a 12 year old.
Forget that he is gaining too much weight, and don't bother feeding him a balance diet, or provide him activities to burn some of those extra calories he is eating. Get use to spending $400.00 or more a year on ss...b/c before you know it, instead of spending your money on cell phones, you'll be spending it on insulin...
I'm not trying to change anything...I'm just sharing the intelligence we get to work with 
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Spoiled child...
Hey Candice, that child is spoiled and he is only 12! That is a bad path to start....imagine when he gets a little older? Worse! I think dad should talk to ex wife about spoiling the child. If that doesn't work then don't spoil him...teach him the value of things. What is a 12 yr old doing w/a phone in the first place??? Sorry to hear that...it's not the child's fault.
-happy mom
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That cell phone could be a good thing if he uses it to his advantage. I have an ex boyfriend who was overweight as a child and into his middle teen years. When he was about 15 he decided that every night he was going to walk around the neighborhood and talk on his cellphone to try to get into better shape. He lost 75 pounds just by walking around and talking on his cellphone. I'm not saying that this child will think of the same thing, but it would be nice if he did wouldn't it
Also, I thought the line about "instead of spending your money on cell phones, you'll be spending it on insulin..." was great! You are very witty
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
IS that a I'll buy your love
IS that a I'll buy your love & loyalty angle on her part! I hate that!!! It's a silfish thing for a parent to do...they sacrifice the child (character & well being)..to fulfill thier own needs.
Hubby's X used freedom to "buy SD". SD was free to stay over night at her BF's ..her moms mom..bought her a car at age 16..then mom's dad left her his car in his will...(Out of all the other grandchildren). (The mom is the only girl in the family and has worked her parents for whatever she can get from them)
When she turned 19 and Mom couldn't use her to collect a child support check...Mommy dearest stopping sucking up to her...and SD came to live with us.
Actually hubby & I called it going down that way ...X is such a user and so transparent to him now.
Mom has to stop spoiling him and be a parent!!!!
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All of the above...
All of you touched on some level of what is going on..spoiled, let my buy your love, I feel sorry for you b/c your parents aren't together, or maybe just maybe he might get off the couch with the cell phone..
I'm not against an active child having a cell phone, or even my ss having a cell phone..b/c this could be a chance for him to call his friends and plan something with them that get's him off the couch. What I'm against is spoiling him with the most expensive hardware. He is a bonefied snob and it upsets me. He doesn't have to earn anything ever.
This is his future...he is eventually going to have to be on insulin b/c he eats a poor diet, he polishes off enough food to sustain the activity of an grown man, but he is lazy. He is under the influence that dessert comes after every snack and meal and there is no such thing as portion control. He get's what he wants when he wants it w/o earning anything, and everyone is full of shit.
His mom is embarrassed at him being overweight, but she blames ss for having the "tendency" to be overweight b/c some of my dh's family members are overweight. She even yells at my ss for it. I argue this idea of him having some glandular issue b/c when he lived with us last year he lost weight immediately b/c we limited pop and dessert, provided healthy meals, and we showed him what porition control is all about. We also took him to the gym with us. As he was melting away body fat..I asked him "do you feel like you are on a diet?" and he always responded with "No."
Since bm is a highschool dropout, I think ss will be too, and he will live between grandma's and moms' couches. I don't think he will be motivated to ever work or go to college. Everything is handed to him. If he becomes a teen parent, his mom will end up paying for that too.
We can't battle this or even talk to mom about her actions. She is very transparent and she will put a fake face on, agree with my dh, and then when she hangs up the phone she is her evil self again. She will do what she wants w/o any regard to her actions and talk trash about me and dh to ss telling him how we are the "bad" people and she is the "good" person (she is really buying his loyalty)...remember everything that happens to her is everyone else's fault and they will somehow pay...this is precisely why I have thrown in the towel, b/c you can't reason with insanity. I've shown ss what sanity is all about, it is up to him to read the handwriting.
I'm sorry a little stuck on something..
Where does his mom get her money?
He cannot seriously be happy being over weight.. You have pretty much said it you have shown him and what he does with it now is totally up to him.
Money...
a few sources..the ex makes really good money for being a dropout, she herself makes $48k/year. She also has a father that pays for her groceries/elec bill etc..you know the boring stuff we don't want to pay for in life.
She usually doesn't pay for car insurance, so there is one bill she is saving on, oh, yeah...the guy living in the rv trailer on her bf's property watches her 4 year old so she doesn't have to pay for daycare...never mind he has brain trauma from being beat up by gang members when he was 18 (he was beat with a steel pipe and consequently very slow b/c of it- my dh was his neighbor growing up).
She also hooked up with a guy who makes decent money in construction (and from what we hear he also deals drugs which we can't prove) so he makes two incomes, and of course probably doesn't make his arm candy pay for rent/groceries you know the non-fun bills the rest of us pay for. Remember, this is his pussy bill...
Don't worry, our cs isn't hurtful...we are self employed, and I make damn sure my dh won't ever pay ridiculous cs to pay for unnecessary toys.
My ss isn't a happy child and he hasn't been for a long time. I'm sad for him, but I can't do anything about it.
Thanks for the hugs paranoid
Yes, I do want to scream...but in reality it would be a waste of time.
He is so ungrateful, and is a bottomliss pit of give me's and rarely says thank you, but I'm the bad person...
I'm not sure the light bulb will ever go off in his head for him to "get it"...that same light bulb never went off in his mom's head...she doesn't "get it" and this is what we get to deal with...