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Submitted by Melise on Sat, 10/14/2006 - 11:58pm

I am having a hard time dealing with my SD. the problem is she cries about EVERYTHING!! She cries when her dad goes to work, she cries if a commercial comes on during her cartoon, she cries if I want her to go play while I do something.I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THERE IS A NEED TO CRY OVER STUFF!!! I have NEVER been a cryer even when I was little and to be honest when I hear kids crying about stuff it fries my last nerve REAL fast. Am I the only one who is like this? I dont know how to fix it. I try to not let it get to me but it is nearly impossible. I get SO irritated with crying! She is just so overly emotional about everything and I SUCK at dealing with it. I'm told many girls are this way and I think that the good lord might be making a big mistake sending me another girl (I'm 8 months pregnant and its a GIRL).Anyways I feel better now that I have vented about how much I cant stand crying and overly emotional people. The End

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Submitted by Ms.J on Sun, 10/15/2006 - 1:42am

Not that this is any help whatsoever, but crying really pisses me off too. My ss is a huge cry baby and it's all I can do to keep from whacking myself in the head when he throws a tantrum. (and he's in First grade!).

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Submitted by Melise on Sun, 10/15/2006 - 1:33pm

It actually really helps just knowing that im not the only one! I cant stand it. Thanks

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Submitted by tyra on Sun, 10/15/2006 - 6:31pm

How old is she? My SD did that until she was 31/2 and luckily it went away. We try to no acknowledge whenever she cries about stupid stuff and she has stopped. I know what you mean I am not a crier either and it can get to you but it does , at least in my case, get better.

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Submitted by Melise on Sun, 10/15/2006 - 11:53pm

She is almost 5. It has gotten MUCH better since her dad and I have been together. She was spending a lot of time with her grandmother (DH's mom) and MIL made it 1,000 times worse. It is so nice to know others feel the same as I do.

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Sun, 10/15/2006 - 8:38pm

I know how you feel. My BF's daughter is 7 years old and she still cries over everything. Just this past weekend she was at our place and was there for a whole 5 min before she started crying because she wanted to go to the bathroom and her sister had just gotten in there. It gets so annoying. There are times when she will cry because she can't find something or her father won't drop what ever he is doing to accommodate her.
She doesn't do it so much around me, because she knows that it gets her no where and I will walk away. However if her father is around, the water works come on and they stay on. I have to admit he is getting better at calling her on it and not giving in. However he still has a long way to go. All I can say is put a stop to it as soon as possible because it gets really old really soon.

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Submitted by notastep on Mon, 10/16/2006 - 8:39am

My 5 1/2 year old daughter goes through that phase also. I'm sure it's all kids. I just tell her if she needs to have a good cry that's OK with me. Just do it in your room because I don't want to hear it. Now if she gets upset about something she will go to her room until she feels better.
It's not you!!

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Submitted by Dee on Mon, 10/16/2006 - 11:00am

I feel your pain. Our problem is the BM gives in to the SD when she pulls the crying / tantrum thing. We do not. It produces the exact opposite reaction in me. I will be damned if I give in at that point. It just happened yesterday evening when we were leaving the grandparents house to take the SD back to her mother (we have the SD on weekends). The SD did not want to leave and started this terrible crying tantrum in the car. I have to literally grit my teeth, because it sends me over the edge. My BF yanked the car over to the edge of the road and told the SD to stop it right now or he would give her something to cry about. He told her this tactic may work with her mother (which it does) but does not fly with us. Luckily my BF and I are on the same page with how we feel about discipline. The unfortunate part is the BM is too lenient with the SD and will give in to her rather than be the parent. My BF and I were talking later last night about the incident and we know it's only going to get worse as the SD gets older. His thought is the SD will have to learn this is the way it is in our household. It is important you both present a united front to the SD.

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Submitted by Melise on Mon, 10/16/2006 - 12:10pm

I deal with the same thing with BM. She gives into the crying and wants to "talk about whats wrong"! HELLO that is the WORST thing you can do you moron! DH and I are generally on the same page but every once in a while he wants to just feel sorry for her. I just say "fine if thats what you want to do then find daycare for her and you be responsible for her on your own cuz I will not bust my ass raising a child who is allowed to be a brat in my house" (I have her while he is working and when she goes to BM's I watch her during the day while BM works). Then I leave and go shopping or to the horse barn and let him deal with her on his own. He changes his attitude REAL fast.

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Submitted by tyra on Mon, 10/16/2006 - 11:04am

We too don't let SD get away with the waterworks. When my son was just 6 months old he started crying and SD looked at him and "Stop crying that doesn't work in this house" At least I know we got the point across to her and I had a good chuckle.

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Submitted by happy mom on Tue, 10/17/2006 - 7:44pm

did you take her to the dr to get advise? is it maybe she is tired/hungry on those times she cries? i have a 5 yr old and she get's really mad/irritated when she is hungry or tired. or maybe she has a mental disability? i would get her checked.

-happy mom