Warning: LONG read! Well, visitation was the other day so you know I've got something to vent about. BM called SS on his cell phone, and he told her that he and I were at the house alone and that BF had gone to the store real quick and would be right back. Apparently this is some sort of criminal offense or something because BM went ballistic. Answer me something: is there anything wrong with SS staying with me for a few minutes while BF runs to the store? Well, none of us thought so but BM felt differently.

She called back after BF had gotten back and spoke to him through SS, making SS tell BF what she wanted to tell BF. She said that visitation was over and that they needed to come home NOW. BF asked politely what time it was, and informed her that he'd have SS until court-ordered time to go home. She said that no, he had forfeited his right to visitation that day by proving that he couldn't take care of SS and leaving him alone with me. He again said that they'd be home at the normal time. She then said that visitation was OVER and she expected to see them in 30 minutes. "Arrest me,” he said. She said she wanted to talk to him. He picked up the phone and told her basically that he didn’t understand what was wrong with what had happened. I guess she said that he was supposed to be with his son 24/7 when he had him, because he asked her if SHE was with SS 24/7 when she had him, said “so you never get a babysitter, never leave him with your mother...” Then she started threatening to go to her lawyer or call the cops to our house and he told her to go ahead and get ugly, we’ll see how DHS likes certain things and we’ll see just how ugly things can get (her house is a pigsty...literally disgusting. She hasn't cleaned the place in probably as long as SS has been alive. SS says that the house looks like someone just took a bag of garbage and slung it around everywhere. BF said that he was looking for some of his stuff when he was moving out and found a bunch of dirty diapers. SS hasn't worn diapers in like 6 years...). He hung up the phone. She of course called back and told SS she wanted to talk to BF. "Sorry!" So then she made SS give the phone to me. Greeeaaat.

She gets me on the phone and tries to act like she did nothing wrong...she said she was just trying to ask BF some simple questions and he was threatening to contact DHS (Yeah…THAT’S how it went…). She blah blah blahed for a couple of minutes and asked me what BF plans to do with SS for Christmas. I told her he planned on doing what the parenting plan says, which is pick him up at 3PM on Christmas day and bring him back at 3PM two days later. Oh no he won’t! She told me that she was going to see her lawyer the next day and try to get BF’s parental rights revoked or make visitations supervised.

BF talked to SS after all this and told him that BM is probably going to do some things soon to try to make it where BF can't see SS anymore. He asked SS how he felt about that. "It SUCKS!" he said. He told SS that if BM does do this, there will probably be some people who are going to ask him some questions, and he needs to tell them the truth whether it's good or bad. He asked SS if he wanted to spend less, more, or the same amount of time with his Dad - he said more! BF said alright, we'll see what we can do.

I REALLY don’t understand the need for all this ridiculous drama. So BF ran to the store...what’s the big deal? She’s sent me several emails since then. She has repeated that she’s going to see her lawyer, which I responded that I didn’t understand the need to make things more difficult when we could all work things out like adults between us and not include legal action. Of course, she doesn’t see it that way. Every little thing that she doesn’t agree with, she calls her lawyer or the police. BF calls her and she doesn’t want to talk to him? She calls the police. BF finds out that she’s been stalking me and paying money to get info on me? She calls the police. It’s ridiculous! She says that she does NOT want him at our house and she does NOT approve of overnight visits especially considering what happened that day. I told her that her disapproving of something doesn’t make it illegal...so then she starts lying and says that BF verbally agreed to not have SS around me or any females, or anyone that’s not a blood relative. WTF? I asked her how he’s supposed to take SS out to do things when he’s not allowed to be around women or people he’s not related to...I asked her why she was so scared of her son being around me, if she thought that he was going to like me more than he likes her...she of course dodged the question. Is that what this is all about?? I’ve tried telling her MULTIPLE times that I’m not trying to replace her and I will never “steal” her son. I've offered to her for us to work this out amongst the three of us like ADULTS several times but she's ignored every one of them and responded with another ridiculous lie. She has no intention of working this out! It's just the next thing she can use as ammunition against BF.

I’m just wondering what she’s going to tell her attorney this time to get something done. Every time she feels the need to get legal intervention, she tells them these very obviously made-up stories to get them to do whatever she wants. First It was that BF threatened to burn down her house with her and her son in it. Then it was BF and I had hacked and bugged her computer and were tracking everything she did. Then it’s that BF calls her every day to tell her that he made a mistake and wanted her back. Then it was that he called her 50 times in 8 hours, and that she overheard him threatening to beat SS if he didn’t lie to her. What is she going to say now to get what she wants??

Furthermore, WHY would a mother try so hard to have her ex-husband's parental rights revoked? She's told me before that if BF would just sign over his rights to SS, things would be much easier. WHY would a mother not want their child to have a relationship with it's own father??