So I have been reading through a few blogs this morning as I have been away from my computer for a dew days... trying to play catch here in our world. Anyways, I cam across one that mentioned (forgive me I can't remember who posted it) that if Step Mom comes up with a resolution- it is immediatly shot down by BM... Funny because we just had a MAJOR blow out last night because of this.

Long story somewhat short- our schedule is this- Us- Monday, Thursday Friday and Saturday till 5. Her- Sunday Tuesday Wednesday and Saturday AFTER 5. It has worked well for the past few years and my daughters are on the same schedule with their Dad (except I get them back Sunday night) So, when something comes up and we want to take the kids somewhere for the weekend we have to make somekind of a "swap" as BM does not want to "miss" any days (my girls BF could care less... we just return the favor at a later date), so just keeping him on Sunday and calling it a favor is not an option... Here in lies the problem... okay ,seems simple enough-we have him your sunday this weekend... you can have him our saturday next. Right??? WRONG- she doesn't want to go 5 days without seeing him- TH, FR, SAT, Sun, Mon... okay, fine... I came up with a calendar for next month (going to see DH's Gpa in Palm Springs) The weekend WE have him, she gets our thursday, the weekend SHE has him we get her wednesday... makes perfect sense to me... no one goes 5 days with out him... exact swap as far as amount of days... WRONG- now she is upset because we have a 4 day span with him on this calendar and she doesn't.... Well, stupid...in order to get him back on his regular schedule HE has to spend 4 days somewhere... so she comes up with a "better" idea.... but this one STILL puts him with us for 4 days in a row, and has a bunch of you keep him till 8:30 pm and drive him to my house crap (not a short drive, and why swap HOURS when we can just swap DAYS??)... STUPID IDIOT! It is only because it was MY solution that she is not willing to go with it... well, she is going to be hating life because we will just adjust our trip and take time off work to go and when she wants to switch for a weekend... the answer will not only be NO, but HELL NO.

I am so sick of her immature Bullshit. I told her last night, she is no longer to communicate with me. She can TRY to communicate with DH from now on, which stresses her out because he just can't be nice to her... no matter how hard he tries, something mean comes out. Which is why she and I started communicating in the first place.

So my question is... do these woman think that if something is DH's idea, that it was not DH and Step Mom that came up with it together? Do they think that these kids live in OUR homes WITH us (just as much as with them) and we will not have any say in what goes on??? Is it that big of a deal if I communicate something or if DH does??? Because seriously, I will say it 100 times nicer than DH- he DOESN'T like you, remember- he divorced you.... They are fooling themselves if they think that the STEP MOM has NO say in what happens in SK's life. Here she is telling me 2 days ago how grateful she is that I love SS so much, yet she is STILL complaining to DH about the health care... he finally told her last night "tattling on her will not help, you are acting worse than a 5 year old, no matter what SM and I are on the same team over here, talk all the shit you want it won't start a fight under this roof". She just hung up. Haven't heard from her since... maybe we will just utilize are annual vacation and she won't see him for 7 days NO SWAP- then she will rethink her selfish motives. I would love to wrap my hands around her neck today... did I say that outloud??