Yep, that's the sound of the other shoe falling. When kids act out, you have to wonder what in the hell they are thinking sometimes. Now you know. As horrible as it is to know, though, knowledge is power and now you have what you need to start resolving some of these behavior issues with her. I agree with The Great Fearless One about getting her into counseling. For her alone, certainly, but maybe for all of you as a family to help her deal with this and to also to help all of you deal with your own individual feelings about it. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way.

~ Anne ~

Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)

My sil was molested by her uncle who is six years older than her. So basically, a child was molesting another child. The same thing happened to her, the older brothers beat the crap out of the young brother causing the damage, and no one ever got my sil any help. They brushed it under the rug.

To date, she has many many issues. She can't trust anyone, she is incredibly two faced, and after having her stomach stapled, she is still significanlty over weight. I would classify her as morbidly obese. It's terrible, it's absolutely horrific how no one thought to get her into counseling.

My heart goes out to you and your sd. I'm very sorry this happened. I wish that I had the right words to give to you. It's heart wrenching to hear that a child was violated.

Hugs to you....
Candice

That behind the behaviour there is often a cause. As much as we may be upset with sks...there is often a reason for what they do.

How sad for you and your family. You know she may not remember it on a daily basis but deep down subconsciously she knows..
You know its all to common now days for all of that crap to be going on. My birth father molested my two older sisters, and let me tell you something. My oldest sister has always been very open to any questions I have ever had, my next sister to this day will not speak of it. She has had many relationships, she is now married with a child but I know with the way she is a lot of it has to do with the abuse. I cannot say for certain if my dad ever really layed a hand on me.. And no one else can either. ITs sickening to think that the man who made me with my mother could do such a thing.
Personally in my opinion, Child molesters should be put to death. Period. There is not one child molester out there who changes. Once a sick pervery always a sick pervert. And with this man having ANY contact with your SD who knows he could be doing it again. What a sick BASTARD.
I pitty some person who ever layed a hand on my kids. I personally would probably do something horrible to them. At least wound them terribly. Not kill but wound, your damn right.
I wish you and BF all the luck in the world getting your SD out of her situation. He is probably abusing her.. Its time to step up and SAVE her. Apparently her mom and everyone else think this man is just saved, yeah right.. I am so sorry little jo..
My dad, is a sick individual who just like the rest should have been put to death. The damamge caused by abuse is much deeper then any of us truly think. Sometimes when you here of a kid being traumatised in the sense of that, it makes me wonder if living with those memories forever is worse then going to be with GOD up in heaven at least in heaven you think that those bad things cannot be there or in there mind.
This is tragic..
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..