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Submitted by Shopaholic on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 4:34pm

So I woke up this morning and SS had already left the house 1/2 and hr before he had to catch the bus (he was over at his friends house who he catches the bus with) so I was up with bio-son eating breakfast and I saw SS walking by the house on the way to the bus stop,(He is going over to BM after school today) now it is pouring down rain and there is a storm SS was wearing a hooded sweatshirt and no jacket. BM provided a jacket and he did not wear it, and he was dressed in his nice clothes that DH and I bought for him to wear here when we go out, in the laundry I found all of BM's clothes that he was suppose to bag up and wear when he goes back over for his visit.

What is going on? it is like he wants DH and BM to get into a fight, he knows very well that if he does not wear the clothing that BM provided him with she will flip out and she will call DH and if he wasn't wearing a jacket OMG all hell will break lose. I wish I could sum it all up to the fact that he was being forgetful, but he took all the clothes out of the bag and put in the dirty laundry, as if he was trying to hide them?! I do not understand

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Submitted by Nymh on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 6:30am

Last week when we got SS it was 50 degrees Give rose outside and he was wearing shorts and a T shirt! I've never once seen the kid wear a winter coat except the one we bought for him. It's like she doesn't even check his clothes before he walks out the door.

But to answer Shop, I wouldn't worry too much about it. They're clothes. If BM flips out...she's flipping out over clothes! Doesn't that seem silly? There are more important things to worry about than who bought what and where it is at the time.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by A L Cannuck (not verified) on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 7:02am

By the time I was ten and walking to school, I would walk straight to my Aunts house four doors down, take off whatever "ridiculous" Jacket etc that my mother would force me to wear, put on whatever I chose from the closet (with a few of my own) and go to school. I am guessing it will only get worse from here on out shop...LOL teen years! My ss's are the worst for leaving stuff losing stuff etc, I gave up giving a crap and just do the laundry. I of course strategically place the suggestions of proper clothing, and picking the stuff up and hope in the end they will figure it out.

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Submitted by Anne 8102 on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 7:51am

Why do you care? It's not your kid, so it's not your problem. I'd suggest you just stay out of it. Any problem the BM may have with the way her child is dressed, well, she can and should talk to the child and his father about it. Perhaps he needs more supervision and it's obviously up to the father to provide that supervision when the child is in his care.

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Submitted by Shopaholic on Mon, 10/22/2007 - 1:41pm

I care because for one he left this house with out wearing a jacket in the middle of a storm and I did not want him to get sick or be cold and second the less drama in our lives the better, yeah I understand it is up to the father but SS is old enough to know better too.

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Submitted by sweetthing on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 8:54am

When the boys get dressed on their own, DH & I usually have to send them back in to change.

They are 7 & ( 10 today!!!) and will pick out some scary combos on their own. They also tend to forget to do things, ;ike bring their belt back home from BM's ect... boys are not like us girls, they are busy thinking about playing video games or their friends.

When we lay out their clothes or send them back in to change, I tell them this... If you leave this house wearing that people are gonna think that I am a goof. I have explained that when people see men dressed badley they think, what his wife let him leave the house looking like that!! I have told them that the same things go for kids. I have also used my ex husband as an example ( the kids know he was a real tool and he comes in handy as an example of what happens when you don't do anything for yourself. Smile Thank God something good has finally come of the 10 years I spent with that man. ( we do not have children together so no one gets hurt)

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Submitted by blended_mommy4 on Mon, 10/22/2007 - 3:08pm

I would think from the sound of it, it sounds like he's being a teenager. He probably likes the clothes that he wore better than the ones he had from BM's house. He knows what he's supposed to do, hence the getting up early to make sure you didn't see what he was wearing and hiding the other clothes in the laundry. And not wearing the coat...for some reason at a certain age, I remember when coats weren't cool, no matter how freezing you were. Biggrin I highly doubt he's doing it to cause problems, but if he's a teenager, he probably doesn't really care if it does cause problems either. And just like someone else said, they're just clothes, I'm sure that's how your SS sees it. Chances are, BM probably has the same exact kind of behavior with him, you'll just never know...I wouldn't take it personal. Just do what you can. We had this problem with our kids, and we finally decided that we would just go buy them clothes for our house, and we stopped having BM pack anything anymore.