So my baby is two weeks old today. He's my first biological kid and for the first time since I've been a SM have I really realized how horrible the step kids biological mom's are. I CANNOT grasp the concept that they just leave their kids. One of the BM's only gets her son (my SS14) like once a month and usually can't pick him up until REALLY late and he was just there for four days and he didn' thave a shower the ENTIRE time he was there and he came back smelling like DIRTY cigarettes and she doesn't wash his clothes, which he puts in the laundry and makes our laundry room and all the other clothes in there smell like cigarettes... And she usually drops him off at her sisters house, so she doesn't even really see him.
The other BM only sees her kids in supervised visits, two hours once a month and one of her kids won't even see her. She left her kids MULTIPLE times before we finally got her on supervised vitis. She left them and their dad (my now DH) when her youngest was 9 months old (he's 8 now). She did actually call the other day (from an unknown number, she hasn't given us a phone number or physical address in three years) for the first time in TWO YEARS!! I totally lied and told her the kids weren't here, but they were glad I lied they didnt' want to talk to her.
I just can't wrap my head around it, especially now that I have my own kid. I can't imagine only seeing him on the weekends or once a month or whatever, it's just not an option for me and I don't see how the BM's can be okay with this. And you can't tell me they aren't because neither of them put up a fight for more and I KNOW I'd fight to see my baby. And SS14's mom could have him every weekend and he could even live with her but she chooses neither.
I just can't wrap my head around it.
Dawn