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Submitted by alwaysthemom on Wed, 12/12/2007 - 8:43pm

I come to this website to vent right?, but it just sucks sometimes. I want to tell stories about happy times not always the crap. I feel as though I have nowhere else to turn. I had a previous post about skids being sent home possibly with pinkeye.(very contagious) BM didn't bother to make doc appointments til today when HB called her about it. Of course I was the one pushing him to make the call. I don't think either one of them felt it was neccessary to get kids into the doc. A wise owl(Anne) once told me that Stepmoms should only do things they want to do and not feel like they have to. Not my kids not my problem has become my motto. Anyway, both bioparents let this go on for 4 days. I asked HB why do you act like it's such a chore to ask BM to actually do parent stuff for her kids, but you are constantly reminding me of parent stuff I need to do around here? He had no answer. I guess if you can't expect BM to womanup then don't expect me to either.

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 12/13/2007 - 7:52am

alwaysthemom,

I have asked my DH the same question repeatedly.. esp when he gets on my case about.. Why dont you want to go up to the park and sit there w/the kids while they ride their bikes?? (this after having worked a full week.. and their BM doesnt work AND doesnt take them to parks).. ummm.. because their own mom doesnt do it.. so why should I, when I would just like 30 mins to myself!

I do feel your pain. I also have to ask DH alot to do things he should know to do on his own.. and then to ask her to do things that she should know to do on her own.

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Submitted by goincrazy on Thu, 12/13/2007 - 12:47pm

I have the same problem with DH. His SD is in desperate need of some serious counseling, and noone seems to care about it. BM has been making her an appointment for about 3 weeks now, and can't seem to do it..even though she does not work. I told DH on Monday to tell BM if she does not make the appointment, that we would. He agreed with me and said that he would because this needs to be done before it is too late. Then when he got on the phone with her, it is like he froze and was affraid to say it. He did not tell her what we had agreed on and totally dropped the ball on the whole situation. I am not going to make the appointment becuase, "not my kid, not my problem", but it is really irritating. I know how you feel