should I be concered....
or am I just overreacting about this? Today my daughter and I had some girl time and went to lunch, went to see the Hannah Montana movie and than shopping, we met up with fiancee and FSS at a store and were looking at Hannah Montana shirts for my daughter...FSS who is 5 said he wanted one, I told him they only make Hannah Montana shirts for girls. HE says, and I quote, "I wear dresses at my grandpa's house cause he doesn't have any boy clothes at his house." excuse my language but what in the hell is that supposed to mean? I asked him seriously if he wears dresses over there and he said yes! Fiancee jaw just dropped to the floor, he doesn't know what to think, and even if he asked he wouldn't be told the truth...this whole issue has me REALLY creeped out...would a 5 year old make something like that up, because he wasn't smiling when he said it...*shudder
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I don't think so
I would check with grandpa and see if proper clothes need to be supplied while the child is there. I doubt he is lying. Poor kid. I hope this does not effect his masculinity when he is older.
All I can say is it is certainly interesting.
when comes to wanting
when comes to wanting something his sis wants no, proably just admires her. but when it comes to the dress thing at grandpa YES, because thats a totally different reason to wear a girl item.
I wouldn't worry about it
Just make sure BM is leaving proper clothing. Kids like to play dress up, even boys and he may be just getting into a bin of old clothes. Or he may have been trying to get the Hannah shirt too.
I guess I'm not big on worrying about that kind of stuff in general though. My sons had a play kitchen and a baby doll and they turned out just as "manly" as the next kid.
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I would definitely talk to
I would definitely talk to the Grandpa and ask him what that's about
I'm not really worried
about him liking girl things, that whole thing I'm fine with, it was the line about wearing dresses at grandpas house that concerned me. He's an only grandchild so I'm wondering why BM's dad would even have dresses his size...I talked to fiancee last night and when he dropped FSS off at his grandpa's he didn't ask about the dress thing, he said he's not concerned and thinks FSS made it up. I don't think he made it up myself..oh well, there's nothing I can do, it's not my child.
sixx
you are so right -not your child and pick your battles.
i understand your concern but maybe it was grandpa's shirt and it looked like a dress?
If FH is not concerned then time to put that worry away!
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if you try to carry it on your shoulders.”
I would call grandpa too
I know that my ss has worn some of the girl's things and even as recently as last night wanted to wear a purple unicorn costume to the store. Sometimes he just wants what they want because he wants something too. No big deal.
The granndpa thing concerns me. Why would they expect a boy to wear girl clothes? It sounds like he doesn't have a choice. And are we really talking dresses or just shorts and stuff? Can you make sure you send him over with things?
it's not us that sends him over ther
this is BM's dad...and she lives in the same apt building as him so there shouldn't be any excuse for not having boy clothes. FSS knows the difference between shorts and a dress...he has spent enough time with my VERY feminine daughter to know...
I feel like I'm overreacting maybe because I was molested as a child and when he said that last night it's the first thing that popped into my head...I talked to fiancee about it last night and he doesnt seem concerned about it because he "knows" the guy..I told him that people DO change...the whole thing just creeps me out...
But he's also changed alot behavior wise...his choice of words has become atrocious for a 5 year old..he called my daughter a stupid b*tch while he was here, he called her a sucker, and he walks around saying "oh yeah baby" until I put a stop to it. things are just not looking good for this kid..
it's not us that sends him over ther
this is BM's dad...and she lives in the same apt building as him so there shouldn't be any excuse for not having boy clothes. FSS knows the difference between shorts and a dress...he has spent enough time with my VERY feminine daughter to know...
I feel like I'm overreacting maybe because I was molested as a child and when he said that last night it's the first thing that popped into my head...I talked to fiancee about it last night and he doesnt seem concerned about it because he "knows" the guy..I told him that people DO change...the whole thing just creeps me out...
But he's also changed alot behavior wise...his choice of words has become atrocious for a 5 year old..he called my daughter a stupid b*tch while he was here, he called her a sucker, and he walks around saying "oh yeah baby" until I put a stop to it. He seems to talk about grandpa ALOT too, because it's where he spends all of his time when BM doesn't have him...Things are just not looking good for this kid..