Just got back
from a much needed adult getaway. DH and I had so much fun with our friends on our trip. So, we get back on Sunday and on Monday guess who pulls in the drive. The BM!!! ARRRGH!!!! Skids run out to her and whatever. Anyway, SD comes in the house and says my mom wants to know why you didn't ask her to keep us when ya'll were gone this weekend? My response was everytime we've asked her before she always had an excuse. SD says mom said she would have taken off work. I say well we didn't know that because BM never has in the past. SD smarts off and says well now you know. I just wanted to blow up and tell that girl all the bullsh*t her precious mom has pulled in the past about things like this. Like not being around when it was time to drop the kids off or saying she has no money this time could we find someone else. SD seems to think she's moving back in with mommy dearest when BM moves in with her boyfriend, but as far as DH is concerned that won't be happening. BM continues to string SD along about this when in fact she has no intention of letting her move back.
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Wow...
How old is SD?
My SD doesn't question us for making other arrangements anymore. When DH and I rushed out of state for his father's emergency by-pass surgery, SD stayed at our neighbor's the first night, and third night by our arrangement. BM FINALLY called back the second day to say she would take SD a day early on Tue and keep her through Thur, which was when we thought we'd be home. THEN...came to find out that she took her on Tue, then pawned her off herself on another neighbor of ours on Wed, which was her NORMAL night to have SD!
We asked once more after that, but BM pulled the same thing, sort of half committing to keeping her extra, then backing out while we were OUT OF TOWN.
No more. As a matter of fact we can't get her to take her on her regularly scheduled time. SD has declared in anger more than once, "She doesn't seem to WANT me there."
I'm sorry your SD hasn't seen that light yet. For all the problems I have with my SD, I must say she has seen the truth more than a few times. I just let her soak it in without any additional commentary from me.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
SD is 9
But to top that thing I wrote before off....BM apparently told SD that she would like to be informed when we go somewhere instead of her kids going to my parents house. Bm says she would take them. I took that as implying that my parents were not to keep HER kids. Of course I was POed. I call BM and ask her if she had a problem with my parents. She said no that she would just like to spend more time with the kids. I go off on her about all the times she was asked before to keep the kids and she says she has changed and would like to be more involved. I just tell her she should. Then she informs me that she's taking skids for the whole month of July. DH blew his lid when he found out. That is not happening. He is concerned about where they will be, who with etc.
My kids biggest cheerleader
My response
Tell your mom to ask your dad why.
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ANNE 8102 | GEORGIA
Very Good Reply
But would only get SD slapped, or result in BM not taking her for several visits in our case.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
And the downside to that is...?
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ANNE 8102 | GEORGIA
You crack me up!
Well, we are truly detaching from BM taking her at all. I imagine with us not encouraging scheduled visitation, then they will mutually agree not to see each other. We had no choice. When we pushed SD to go, BM would drop her off at her friend's houses in our neighborhood, who don't have any supervision. We'd be taking a walk and see SD running around the allotment with no one keeping tabs on her. So all hell broke loose and any plans we made during our break from her were interrupted.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra