I would be completely pissed too, probably not to the point where I am banging my fists, but you DEFINITELY have reason to be upset. Hormones definitely make your feelings more intense, but your DH should have reminded those kids everything that you do with them & for them & explain that with you being pregnant you don't always feel well...he has 2 other kids, this should not be news to him!

Picture it: Florida, 21/2 years ago.....very pregnant, custody battle with DH and BM in full swing, and SS living at our house while we were under evaluation. SS is pissy about anything related to the baby, and buying anything for the baby was out of the question, as the state was still taking more than half of DH's income for CS, and only SD was living w/ BM , not both kids....took forever to rectify that! My DH was working all hours, and was not home to even be w/ his son.....but I was the bad guy , when the tension ran to high. I had to "suck it up" and deal with it when SS was eating his way through the food in the house, and we ran out of everything several times, my DH shelling out $$ we did not have, and fighting with BM about everything, and wanting his kids around all the time, even though he was not home enough. All the harassment from BM, and the additudes from my DH, and SS got to me big time! I had a big fight w/ my DH one day, and told him , I was packing up and leaving! I was yelling so loud, and was so freaking mad, with a cooking spoon in my hand slamming it on the counter, right in front of the skids, that I scared all of them! My DH now says, "you went Sicilian on me!" meaning my Italian temper really came out......it does when I'v been pushed, and of course preg. hormones really bring it out too. I know how you feel, and it sucks when that happens."~waiting on the world to change~"

and im not pregnant.
now THERES a problem

im claiming the sicilian in me too

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

not quite like HER pair, im sure!

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

i was ranting and raving to stepwitch the other day and she aske dme if i was pregnant bc i was so emotional about everything and i said "no! im like this all the time!"
truth is, this situation turns me into someone who im really not, someone quite unlike myself. and i dont care for her much

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

I was so negative, and on edge all the time before. I was very depressed as well. Not a pretty pic! I vow to never let anyone "own" me like that eva again! Now I put the fiesty energy into things that are wort it.....and a hellava lot more fun, wink wink :)"~waiting on the world to change~"

We sound the same. I'm not pregant and never have been (yet) but I'm a nut case as well when it comes to BM and skids. They tend to bring out the worst in me.
I'm not silican but i am an Italian and the hardest head of them all (you guessed it I'm a Calabrian).
I'm a fun loving, energetic, kind person, but mix in abit of BM and a bit of skids, forget it, fun loving, engertic, kind person turns into complete nut case. I've been trying to control my emotions over the last year and have to say the Step Talk has really help with the controlling, as I don't lash out as much to BF anymore, I leave it for here.

FrustratedinMA,
Weather it is hormones or not, use it as an excuse anyway cause you'll only be able to use it for 9 months so take advantage of it.

Hit'em with the facts.....it hurts more, and makes perfect sense at the same time!"~waiting on the world to change~"

I was working too, when I got pregnant. I was also watching the skids all the time, and carting them around wherever they needed to be, BM had a great time scheduling things for them to do to keep me running, (stupid me, i fell for it), and then when I had to stop working, that was all I heard from BM, was that I did not work....like she was jeliouse or some thing. She put aside how many years she sat on her ever growing wide a@@, even when the skids were 10, and 13, and in school all day....she would not even drive them, they took the bus. Then my son was born in October, and by Jan. I was back their working part time.....right up till we moved away in July. It is total nonsense to me now!"~waiting on the world to change~"

It's a pain in the a*& that we have to work while BM sits home and does what, exactly? BM's two other kids are in school. But I have to work so we can afford to pay CS so BM can continue to sit home.

And I agree with Dani, even if it is the pregnancy hormones, that excuse only lasts for so long so milk it while you can. My OB/GYN told my husband he could "expect" to get snapped at and when that happened he should just agree with me!

to "snap", sounds like you had a good OB/GYN. :)"~waiting on the world to change~"

The mood swings will get worse......just wait. I know exactly how you feel frustrated. My husband reacted the same way when I mentioned the same thing to him when I was pregnant. Our round trip is 3 hours if there isn't traffic. For some reason men don't really understand that there is another child involved (or will be) until you start showing. They know you are pregnant but I don't think it really "clicks" until you have a big belly. I know that your dh is already feeling the pressure of "split daddy syndrome". He thinks that he has to sacrifice his time with his other children to make more time for your child and feels that he is playing favorites and your baby isn't even here yet. This issue will come up a lot after the baby is born believe me. My son gets shafted all the time because he is "here all the time". Just b/c SD doesn't live with us doesn't mean that she doesn't have to follow all the same rules or get a toy or candy EVERY time we go to the store. Sounds a little like favoritism doesn't it?

Good to know!

Man have I had my freak out moments and I'm about to have another one! I am so sick and tired of DH bying sh*t for the skids. With the ecomony the way it is we just don't have any money left over and what money we do have DH feels the need to buy his kids hot coco when he buys himself coffee in addition to pop and candy at every gas station or grocrey store they enter. I'm sick of it! DH overdrew our account 3 times this month! Thats $30.00 for EACH overdraft fee! I am so pissed and seriously about to go crazy on DH. I'm avoiding him right now because I simply don't know how to calmly approach this. Any suggestions?

his debit card will go missing....and then when he goes to the bank to physically withdraw $$ the account will be closed....and then when he asks you what the hell happened, you can say, "gee, I don't know, I'm still tryin to figure out why we were over drafted 3 times, and where that $$ went off to." (batting eyelashes)"~waiting on the world to change~"