My EX is an idiot
So I get a voicemail saying to expect my child support to get cut in half because my EX has another kid on the way...(we have no court order, we just agreed on an amount)...he is not remarried, I am. I wrote him an email stating that just because he knocked up some girl does not mean that he can pay me half & give her the other half, that it means he has to pay DOUBLE the child support now. His support for our child does not decrease with every new child he has. The cost of our child does not all the sudden decrease because he's knocked someone up! Ugh...he makes me sick. The mom of this new child will get less than me, by about $100/mo because of his pre-existing obligation for our child, but only if I go to the court to formally file for child support. So it looks like thats what I'm going to have to do. My husband and I just had a baby 4 months ago...did we get to send his ex-wife less child support because we decided to have a kid? NO! And he's not even the biological dad of her kid! So looks like I'll have to pay a lawyer now to get a formal child support order. ugh....
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It depends on the state
It depends on the state. In TX every child my husband has lowers his amount of CS that he gives to BM. Cut in half....now that is a joke. It goes down 2.5% for each child he has. She can have a million and it wouldn't change. You are right the cost of your child together does not all of sudden decrease, but he has to support two families now and instead of one. We actually filed to have child support done through the AG b/c we were paying BM way too much and didn't need a lawyer to do it. Check with them first, it can be a simple process.
What is AG?
What is AG?
I don't think my state does
I don't think my state does that...they tell you to get a lawyer for everything in my county. They don't even have do it yourself divorce packets. They won't even tell what forms you need to fill out. They tell you that you can try to figure it out by going to the law library or hire a lawyer. I live in a small town & there's over 60 lawyers here. Its ridiculous.
We're in different states,
We're in different states, but in my state it does not go down, and I checked his state and it does not go down either...each additional child after the first gets less & less support if he already has existing child support obligations. I guess they figure if you can't afford another kid, don't have one. Maybe if he got a child support order for the 2nd one, then turn around & filed to get my support reduced, then maybe they will...but from what I read it does not sound like it. I'm talking to a lawyer tomorrow to make sure.
Be very careful
I would rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I am not.
that the next child's mother doesn't get a court order for child support before you do or your child just might be the one getting less. If I understand correctly, you are not recieving court ordered support, you are recieving an agreed upon amount between you and the ex. This agreement may or may not hold any water in your jurisdiction, however, I would follow up on that asap by getting the support court ordered. Also, here in Georgia, you can file for child support pro se, go through child support enforcement, or hire an attorney. Check out what your options are in your state.
yeah thats why I said I'll
yeah thats why I said I'll have to go hire an attorney to get a court order. I want to make sure it goes into effect before this kid is born! It pisses me off that he has the nerve to suggest my son's support should be cut in half though...right now he doesn't even pay as much as he would if it was court ordered, he only pays what I actually need from him. When he gets promoted or gets a raise, I do not ask him for more money just because he makes more. I do not take what I could take from him, I take the minimum that I actually NEED to raise our son. When we got divorced, I did not ask for a life insurance policy for our son, I did not ask for him to pay support after the age of 18 if he goes to college, I did not even ask him to pay half of college. He does not cover him for his medical or dental insurance, I do. He does not pay anything above the minimum monthly support I need besides buying him birthday & xmas presents. He got off really damn easy. He has a lot of nerve.
RAGS
Yes, Austin. The weather is actually very nice now that summer is over. If you haven't been down here in a while it has really changed. My husband and I were both born and raised here so we don't plan on leaving anytime soon. Do you still watch the horns play? Number one in the nation!!! Saturday is going to be a tough game. Cheer for us.
Child Support Services
I don't know where you live but you should not have to pay an attorney. You should just be able to either go on-line or go to your cities child support services letter to get the package to fill out for child support. And do it ASAP. Most states do consider other children - at least the last 3 I have lived in and when another child is born it goes down about 10%. You don't want to get screwed if this other woman files for child support and they don't factor in your child. Sorry you are going through this - my ex is a real piece of work too - I'm finally collecting arrears of over $20K and my son is 22. It's pathetic.