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The saga continues-H is in fantasy land!

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Submitted by bewitched on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 7:32pm

H called last night to tell me he is now officially laid off.
He had one week a month ago of lay off, one week where he only got 19 hours...and now the other shoe has dropped.

Needless to say, things have been tight around here anyway, with the IRS garnishing 50% of his paycheck. Now no paycheck.

And he was upset because he called and told me he's on his way home and I was all excited and happy about it! :jawdrop: Who is happy and excited because their husband is coming home because he no longer has a job!!!

And I am upset. I think he's happy - just from the way he sounds-to be laid off. to live on unemployment. Well, girls, that's not my way. And since he obviously thinks this is so wonderful, I'm curious what he plans on giving SD17 for graduation. If he thinks he's raiding the savings for that, he's totally lost it. He'll be looking for a place to live if he tries that.

As it is, I am scrounging for a job. Desperate.

And had to go tell my parents, next door, who I cook for every night, who I clean for, do laundry for because of their health, that I might have to move because there simply are no jobs here. The ones' I've found advertised were 1. Farm worker and 2. English instructor. I qualify for neither.

I'm sick over all of this...and H expects me to be jumping for joy because he's "coming home."

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Submitted by doglover1 on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 7:59pm

thats where some people live. Believe me if i was in your situation i would run for the hills. What are they thinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! men can be so stupid, not to mention that having them home all day, oh what a joy! Good luck to you.

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Submitted by Sasha on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 8:51pm

I know the last thing you need is the added stress of H losing his job. But don't give up...didn't the Obamanator say there was "a glimmer of hope?"

How did your parents take the news?

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Submitted by bewitched on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 9:12pm

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

because I am the only one they have here. My younger sis lives only an hour away, and is a "rich" housewife. She feels no responsiblity to help out with Mom and Dad.

I think they're scared. I know they're scared. If I can't go over and cook for one reason or another, they eat cereal. Meals on wheels for lunch, cereal for breakfast and supper. And because of Mom's broken bones (hip is not healing), if I'm not here Dad will have to take the laundry to the basement and do it-and it's hard enough for him just walking, much less carrying laundry down all those steep stairs. So I'm very afraid for them. Sad

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Submitted by LizzieA on Fri, 04/17/2009 - 8:49am

Rent out the other house, boot H--you said you were only with him because he was employed, well, now he's not. Take your savings and put it to good use, like moving when your mom is better. Is there anything you can do as a self-employed person? Contract employee?
I work for me now and there are a lot of options with that, depending on your experience. If your sister won't help, will she contribute money for household assistance? Or groceries? And, I have found that jobs are not advertised. Newspaper and internet, forget it. You have to network. I find all my work that way.
Just some thoughts.

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Submitted by BridgingTheGap on Fri, 04/17/2009 - 9:21am

I think you should move in with your parents so you can be nearby when they need you. Tell your sister that if she can't offer her parents the time of day, she can at least send some groceries or a check.

About the jobs, network like crazy. Ask your friends about possible openings at their places of business. I found the job I currently have and my previous job by just asking friends and family members if they knew anyone who needed help.

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Fri, 04/17/2009 - 11:19am

And frankly, you don't need the stress of H in your life. Let him fend for himself for a while. Might teach him some gratitude for you.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

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Submitted by kaffonseca on Fri, 04/17/2009 - 8:55am

I'm so sorry! This is more stress I'm sure you don't need now. I don't know alot of your story..but maybe now is the time to leave if that is what you have been thinking of doing?

My sister just called me this morning to tell me she got "laid off" - PERMANENTLY ..the day before she was supposed to leave on vacation Sad

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

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Submitted by Hanny on Fri, 04/17/2009 - 4:22pm

I agree with the others...is there any hope of renting our your house and moving in with your parents. The income from the rent of your house would put some spending money in your pocket. This would give you time to get your parents situated and in better health, then you could move away and get a job and start your life over. You certainly don't need DH now that he's not employed. What he gets in unemployment will certainly go to child support and his gambling so why keep him around - your not going to get any of the unemployment. And your moving in with your parents would be a great excuse to get him out of your hair and start planning a new life without him.

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Submitted by bewitched on Sun, 04/19/2009 - 7:48pm

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

But I have an old cat (16), who has been my faithful friend for years, and Max, who is my huge baby Golden. I couldn't possibly put Ariel (kitty) to sleep-or give up Max. They are my family. For those of you who aren't pet people, this makes no sense, I'm sure. To those of you who are pet people, you'll understand completely.