I hate what my DH is going through. SD has come to live with us, and this has affected H and myself and our careers. So we have decided to go after BM for child support. But he's on the phone with her right now and just by his conversation I can tell that she is fighting him on everything - including SD's health insurance, which is the absolute BEST health insurance we can get. One monthly payment and no co-pays - for doctor visits, or prescriptions or anything!! You can't get better than that! I hate this feeling and I hate that she doesn't want to pay. You'd think she would ... as she is the mom... If the situation were reversed, she'd come after him for it and she wouldn't care if he couldn't afford it. It's making me sick to my stomach! She doesn't think it's her problem!! We are also telling her that we would work it out so that she doesn't lose the house my husband gave her (another long stupid story) that we would take child support as a lump sum when SD graduates but that she will have to pay... that gives her time to save up. But she won't agree or listen. Tomorrow they see a mediator and I think it's going to have to go the ugly way and it's just making me sick. I'm so sad... DH is so sweet and has given up so much to this woman and she still feels like she is always the victim...