being sm is the worst... im not made for it.
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I'm OVERLY SICK of ss5.5 getting away with everything because he got "the short end of the stick." OMG. Refuses to play with other kids, plays with baby girl toys, cries at the drop of a dime...I'm sick of it. Is it awful for me to expect him to at least act his age and want to do kid things?? He has no friends BC he cries if someone wants him to share. He wont play sports BC if he's not always the one with the ball he cries. He had a total meltdown at dd's birthday BC he was taking a rest during one of the activities. I mean, everything and anything to get attention and he WANTS to be babied! And when I expect better behavior and development, I'm wrong. This situation is drama and I hate it. I hateeeee itttttt.
it is not too much to ask.
it is not too much to ask. sounds like bio parents involved in ur situation like to baby him. so what if he is a child of divorce? so are millions of other kids in the world! to me, children of divorce shouldnt be treated differently, especially since there are so many of them!
let the little crybaby be a crybaby. when he grows up being a shwa and his daddykins wonders why his DAUGHTER is more of a 'man' than his son, u can always just remind him of how much he was babied.
Ohhh and it was so special
Ohhh and it was so special (total sarcasm) when my dh told me tonight that I'm the outsider. Okkkkk....really thanks dh for fueling my fire. As if I didn't already feel like a jackass. :/ ugh.
Dondiva, we might have twin
Dondiva, we might have twin ss5's LOL!! Total big boy and respectful angel child with me...with dh's mom its the WORST. you would literally think he is an oversized infant. OMG. Seriously. I cannot even be around when gma is with SS. Dh and family believe that SS needs special treatment because he is in a blended family. Punishment is unheard of, " he's just a little boy!!" Baby talk is not corrected. Peeing on the FLOOR is just an accident. Wiping boogers on the couch is normal...wow. this is my life LOL!
Amen dispirited! I'm not
Amen dispirited! I'm not rushing time BC other than being a miserable sm, I love my life LOL!! But you better believe when That day comes where everyone is asking WHY, I will laugh at them all. Smh.
SD used to do the baby talk
SD used to do the baby talk thing CONSTANTLY! I would say it was around age 7 when she finally stopped. We got to the point that if she asked for something in her baby talk voice we would tell her she needed to ask again in her 6 year old voice (or whatever age she was at the time). We refused to acknowledge her requests until she spoke in a normal tone. It seemed to work. She got kind of annoyed with us about it, but it did eventually go away. I think with her it was more of a habit though. She would totally turn in on again when my in laws would arrive though. So we had to ask her in front of them to use her big girl voice many many times. To the point where she got embarrassed I think and didn't want to let it be known that she could change the way she would ask for things. So she just started using the big girl voice from the start. Stopped the embarrassing announcements from us! lol
See your key word is WE. like
See your key word is WE. like as in dh actually being on your team 100%. I'm the wicked sm BC I want him to grow and develop. Personally, I'd like to be proud of my kids...not constantly trying to justify poor behavior.
I agree. And I am lucky that
I agree. And I am lucky that my dh is open to discussing things with me and we do definitely try to parent as a team. Lately I've been trying to back off my role with his kids because I feel like I can't mentally take it anymore, but I tend to still give him my input, we discuss things and he handles them.
Being on this site I really do realize how lucky I have it that my husband is on my side. He does have his moments of thinking his kids can do no wrong, but I guarantee I will be like that with my own child as he gets older.
I think the key to the "WE" thing we have going on is that from day one of our relationship we've tried to be open and honest with each other and really listen to what the other has to say. To try to see the others point of view. We're not always on the same page but I think that we can both understand each other's side and respect it. I'm very sorry to hear that it's not always the case with every couple.
Is there a reason your husband is so unwilling to see that he could be negatively affecting his child by condoning poor behaviour? Is there maybe something underlying that's causing him to really not want to pursue helping this kid change?
Pcd, I was just reading your
Pcd, I was just reading your post on another topic. Along the lines of family pushing skids on you. I'm so in the same boat with you. Where gestures are thoughtful, they seem to also be thoughtless in the aspect of not considering how truly tough it is to be a sm. People never seem to get that. We don't need skids rubbed in our faces, trust us, they make sure we know They are there... LOL
To sm's who have young skids,
To sm's who have young skids, these kids practically will never change, and most will carry on with their poor behavior right into their adult years. If the dh's keeps feeding the baby bottle to them.
There are 2 things sm's can do, laugh at them or turn your back on them. I am sick and tired of being on an emotional roller coaster with them :sick: so I finally got off and got on with MY own life. I have no legal rights to skids Thank Goodness...
PEACE