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Submitted by No-I am not you... on Wed, 11/21/2012 - 9:46pm

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Married to DH for 3 yrs now...and being a stepparent still makes me crazy. Seriously, how in the world do you all do it? I HATE BM and strongly dislike SS6. I cannot believe I did this to myself. I want to love SS but I feel like its impossible. For the sake ofmy marriage, I want this to get better. He is just a little whiny, baby talking, crying, junk food eating, manipulative BRAT. OMG. Any advice??? I doubt it, but im so desperate because at this point I KNOW that things will just continue to get worse. I try to ignore him when I know that im just being a grumpy bitch, but he plays on that and my out of control mind just goes off. He doesn't play, he doesn't read, no friends!!!! WTF?! all he does is play his completely mind numbing video game and watch spongebob. He doesn't listen. He interrupts. He cries a lot for a 6yo boy. He just makes me cringe. HELLLLLPPPP MEEEEEE PLEASEEEE!!!! :/

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Submitted by crystalclear on Thu, 11/22/2012 - 9:49am

LMFAO!
You have my life. Things have gotten better around here. SS4 always had it out for me even when he was a baby. I'm lucky only in the fact that BM and I get along. She also see what a whiny a$$ he is. It all had to do with my. MIL filling his head with sh*t about me. I know you hate him. Your DH has to be the one to put his foot down or it won't get any better. I used to tell my DH this all the time. He used to say wah wah he's only a baby. I would say so how long does he get to act like alittle sh*t until you cut him off???? I said well who knows more about being a parent me or you? I've been a parent for 8yrs you've been a parttime parent for 1. So at this point you either deal with this child or leave. You tell DH he either deals with SS and makes it better or your marriage is done that's really the only option. However venting on here helps. Smile

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Submitted by Queeny on Thu, 11/22/2012 - 9:50am

I asked for the book, StepMonster. I read on the forum that it helps. I think venting here is also a great outlet! Your feelings appear normal to me. Can you get more support from DH?

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Thu, 11/22/2012 - 7:42pm

I hope you're not trying to correct this kids actions as its a waste of time. First without Daddies backing you'd be wasting your time even if the kid lived with you full time. Second since his bio-mother has him 12 out of 14 days (I assume) any attempts at influencing this kid by either of you is fruitless.

Read the article linked at the bottom of this page - it is the only way I'm aware of that may, that's worth repeating, may, save your sanity other than a divorce which many have found to be the only solution.

Frankly there should be a law against step-parenting. It drives all the adults and all the children closer to insanity than any other thing I'm aware of. Having birthed or sired children parents should be required to live alone until the kids are out of school concentrating their lives on raising their kids. Of course its impossible. If you were here asking advise about marrying this guy my advise would be to RUN.

http://www.steptogether.org/disengaging.html