Oh I JUST went through this. Because Sd15 is super enmeshed all I hear about is how good and kind and sweet and generous and victim her mother is, because nothing is ever her fault, even the mean stuff she said to Husband.

For example, and I told her things straight up because no longer protecting the child from her mother. She made a comment to the effect of "my mom wants to protect us from people shes dating, because she loves us so much..." And said "yeah look what happened with Tweedle Dum!

And then mentioned when I first got together with husband. We had been friends first for 1.5 years. ANd Toxic Troll didnt want to meet me and she didnt want the kids to meet me until she met me. Like that.

Then suddenly shes got a new boyfriend and they have known each other a week after which he spent the night and met the kiddos. 

So, I am not above pointing out times when Toxic Troll has been a narc rewriter of history.

Yes most BMs on this site are naricissistic.  Just let them fester in their own juices.  Pop some popcorn and watch her relationship fail.

Ignore the whore. And be glad the kids are with you more so you can have the larger influence on them (hopefully). 

Ever say no, or want to say no? 

Dh here was in a situation like this for about 2 years until bm found 'replacement dad/mug' 

He had his alloted 50/50 and if he didn't have ss, bms mother did so he was guilted into more and more while she was socialising. 

We werent in great circumstances, afforded a fixer upper house but it was a rip out, building site. Nothing getting done fast on his supposed weekends off as ss was always dumped on us last min with excuses. 

Dh started to say I can't for valid reasons, or stronger 'just no' I'm trying to create ss a proper bedroom right now  etc. That's when things got nasty if truth be told. Bms don't like 'no' 

Fast forward to mediation and thankfully dh guilt and her hold over him evaporated. The mediator herself said 'there Is a line somewhere between one party being a good parent, and the other parent saying their not because they require a babysitter? 

I could kiss that lady 

Same here. I've been told that I'm not allowed to go to school events because I'm "not family", but skids met her current boyfriend before she even filed for divorce from ex husband #2 (who moved in with BM and skids 4 months after she told DH she wanted a divorce). Skids now talk about current boyfriend as part of their family. Also, whenever DH has requested to adjust pick up or drop off time BM has responded "the agreement is clear" and threatened to take him to court twice, but now that she actually acknowledges that she is actually required to manage drop off (before she just told DH that he was reading the agreement wrong, then it was "unfair" for her to have to drop them off, then DH had "set a precedent" by picking them up, so she didn't have to follow the agreement), she is "in a bind" every other weekend and just "can't" drop them off. She always emails about this on Thursday evening...like she somehow didn't realize it was an issue until then. It's also always some outlandish excuse. For example, today, it's supposedly her office Christmas party...two weeks ago, it was "dinner plans", before that her "boss" was making her work late (she's the boss at her work), and on and on and on. She used to just not be home on Sunday evenings when visitation first started (and she wanted to go away with ex husband #2, who was then her boyfriend). She would tell DH that her flight was cancelled or the heat was out at her house, or she had an early morning meeting she "forgot" about...so DH would take vacation days to keep skids and take them to school (this was before he met me). And it doesn't matter if DH helps her once or 100 times...the one time he can't he's just "being mean" because he "hates" BM and he is refusing to "co-parent." I want to say to BM, "why do you always assume we have no plans or nothing going on?" But I don't talk to her, so I can't say that. And MIL is cut from the same cloth, so she always wonders why DH just can't be "more helpful" and then she pulls the same crap in terms of being flaky. With her, it's just that she'll "help" BM, but then won't tell DH what she is doing or that the schedule changed or she will expect DH to tell BM what she's doing. Between the two of them, I sometimes lose my mind. And skids are teens...not toddlers. 

Naked christian whore despite she had an affair before hubby separated from he and was secretly having this affair which skids found out the week divorce was finalised bio mum had married whike kids were at school. She tells them they have a new daddy

she convinced sd's daddy abandoned them for me and the 2 kids wehave. Sd's were 13 & 23 at the time and had ceased contact 5.5 yrs prior. Apparently hubby should have stayed lonely, miserable and single and their personal atm machine instead if spending money on his wife and 2 minor kids