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Submitted by Gagurl29 on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 3:42pm

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My husbands BM keeps looking on my social media and then calls my DH crying. She does not understand why he does things with me that he would not do with her. She is even very jeolous of my relationship with his mom. They have been divorced almost 5 years and she is re-married. She has never met me and does not plan on it. I am perfectly ok with that. I extended the olive branch and she refused it so I left it alone. What is everyones opinion on this? It sounds like to me that she is not over him. 

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Submitted by Gagurl29 on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 3:49pm

 

 

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 4:55pm

You can lock your facebook down so that only your friends can see your page and posts... if you allow "friends of friends" she can still see it. 

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Submitted by relationshipguru on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 5:21pm

Is there any way you could get off of social media for a while? The reason I say this is because that way you cannot be accused of stalking, blocking, harassing or obsessing anyone and they can't do the same to you. I know it seems unfair but it might be best at least for a bit. I also might add that when most be deactivate their social media after 6 weeks they decide they don't miss it anyways! It's more trouble than it's worth in these cases and has also been used against people in unjustified ways. I also might add that you never really know who your real friends are. People are weird that way.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 5:49pm

Why is your DH talking to her? He should switch all communication to email or text and only respond to things that have to do with the kids. Let all voice communication go to voice mail and only respond to things that are important. If he is letting her complain to him about such things, he is part of the problem.

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Submitted by Gagurl29 on Thu, 03/12/2020 - 11:45am

We she texted him saying something was wrong with their son. He realized what was going on and he ended the conversation. When he picked up the kids is when she came out and bombarded him in front of his kids. He let his anger get the best of him and argued with her for a minute. He realized it was pointless and left. I agree with you! If he allows her to call then he is part of the problem. Also, I noticed that the few times she has called that he goes outside to speak to her. That part bothers me.