BM's selfish antics during a tough time
DH and I got a call in the middle of the night Monday that his 36 y/o sister was headed to get a heart transplant. We thought this call would take years - she just went to the top of the list 2 weeks ago. She has young children and her and DH are incredibly close. It was a scary couple days but I am glad to say she made it through surgery and did well. Now we need to get through the coming months....
Anyway, family hardship doesn't stop BM from playing her games. She proceeded to call DH during all of this and tell him not to contact SS9 via his ipod anymore. SS texted DH "hi I miss you so much" and DH responded "I miss you too bubba, what do you want for dinner when you come over?" Apparently, this short innocent texting was such an issue for her that she had to call him and yell at him to never contact SS directly - he has to go through her.
I suppose this woman was not born with a single ounce of sensitivity or empathy.
We rushed home from the hospital to be there in time for drop off and BM was a no show. She "didn't have time to drive there."
Not sure why in the midst of tough times she goes out of her way to make things harder. I suppose I still am far too hopeful that one day she will decide to move on with her life and be a normal human being.
Just needed to vent. I fantasize about the day she opens her mouth and disrespects me to my face. I would love to meet her in a dark alley. 
She knows.
She knows.
she had to call him and yell
she had to call him and yell at him to never contact SS directly - he has to go through her.
Unless, for some weird reason this is in the CO, I would ignore her (prefer to tell her to eff off, but....). Seriously, who does she think she is that he cannot have contact with his son unless it's through her? That's the great thing about kids getting to that age, not having to have so much contact with the BM. Oh, that's right, that's the point with some of these women. That, and control.
You don't really think BM gives a squat about what the family is going through, do you? That is very wishful thinking on your part!
I hope your SIL has a full recovery. That is awesome that the opportunity came so quickly for her.
It has always blown my mind,
It has always blown my mind, the extreme lengths BM goes to in order to maintain control. I truly am afraid for what will happen as the kids continue to become more independent. She is petrified of them enjoying their time with DH and I. She works so hard to keep everything monitored. The amount of energy she puts into it is ridiculous. I wish she would just marry her boyfriend, have more kids and MOVE ON. Wishful thinking. I know.
Thank you for your well wishes for SIL.
I am so happy for you guys!
I am so happy for you guys! Your SIL will have one heck of a battle scar. When you visit, take the precautions seriously- the masks, gloves and gowns are a pain (and no sniffles). Will the ICU allow mylar balloons? Ignore dumb BM, she is an idiot.
I am not sure if they will.
I am not sure if they will. I will probably be visiting tonight. Nervous to see her. So grateful for the surgeons and doctors...
I wish your SIL all the best
I wish your SIL all the best and hope she has a good recovery.
Your BM sounds like a lot of BMs discussed on here - such a need for control. Unless it's in the CO, there's no reason your husband can't contact his son directly.
It is so true! I have been
It is so true! I have been here for almost two years because of someone else signing a card.
Best wishes for a speedy
Best wishes for a speedy (it's all relative)recovery for SIL.
Ignore BM. Try your hardest!
I am guessing the message
I am guessing the message wasn't sent at a ridiculous hour or something. Why would she even want contact to go through her? One would imagine she'd be happy not to deal with her ex any more than needed & that she'd be happy they communicate well without her needing to push for it.
I have no clue why some BMs behave this way, it doesn't have good results for anyone including BM. I have a BM in my life that pulls the same s***, just read my one post if curious (Hitler would have been more compassionate). Every single time things are tough, she insists upon being a total b. All I can say is, your man needs to deal with this or it won't stop. Does he deal with it? I'm assuming not, if this is a regular thing for BM. Even if her behavior does not stop, at least if he tries he is taking charge of his problems and life like an adult & man.
For now, try to focus on the positive. This IS a positive story. SIL was treated, much faster than expected, & now she's on the road to recovery. SIL can soon move on with her life, recovery comes with its own challenges & frustrations so ef BM for not having the intellectual capacity to grasp what's at play. Don't let BM rain on the parade. Well wishes to your SIL. Focus on her, not BM.
" SS texted DH "hi I miss you
" SS texted DH "hi I miss you so much" and DH responded "I miss you too bubba, what do you want for dinner when you come over?" Apparently, this short innocent texting was such an issue for her that she had to call him and yell at him to never contact SS directly - he has to go through her."
First, your DH is not in a place right now to be distracted by baths*t crazy BM. Block her . Her little tirade power control stunts just aren't necessary he have to deal with right now.
Such a sweet innocent text from his son reaching out to his dad with a acknowledgement back from Dad does not need BM's interference. For Pete's sake. What's Dad suppose to do when his son texts a quick hello? Ignore kid? Text BM and ask her to please tell his son he misses son too? Ask for permission to respond to child's text?
WTH is wrong with that mother? I'm angry for your husband. When things settle down for him, he should seriously consider modifying the CO to include communication with his son.
Best of wishes to SIL.