Clingy 13 year-old SS

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:? My 13-year-old SS was here visiting for spring break this past week. He is constantly hanging all over his dad. It happens more often when he knows it will mean getting in the middle of my husband and I. For instance... they were in the living room getting ready to watch a movie yesterday and I sat down on the couch next to my husband (my SS was on a separate couch). I got up to go into the kitchen for a few minutes, and I came back to find my SS to have taken my spot and laying on my husband. I said, "Oh... you took my spot". SS responds with, "Yep". I am to the point that I don't even want to spend time around him anymore. He is always trying to compete with me and it is driving me crazy. I understand that it is hard for him because he lives 7 hours away from his dad and doesn't see him that often. But this just isn't a healthy situation. My husband thinks I'm just being mean. Anyone have similar situations?

You should have just stood

You should have just stood there and stared at him then told him to move. When he pays for the house and furniture he gets a say in where he sits.. until then he's a kid.

My SD's will often sit in my spot on the couch. When I'm ready to go sit down I just look at them and tell them to move. Sometimes the 6 year old gets pouty. I either ignore it or tell her to knock it off and if she doesn't she's more than welcome to go do it in a bedroom. She usually fixes her face quickly.

You're right, I should have.

You're right, I should have. I brought it up a day later and it didn't go well. I am once again the "bully". He played the whole, "He just never gets to see me" card. Which I think is BULLSHIT. UGH being a stepparent is SO hard.

You're right, I should have.

I definitely should have. I

I definitely should have. I guess I was just in so much shock that I didn't know what to say. I got up and went to another room shortly afterwards. Just wish my husband was on my side... not sure how to make that happen. Not sure that it every will actually.

You should have snapped your

You should have snapped your fingers at him, pointed at his previous seat and said "Move... NOW!)

Do not tolerate or ignore this crap or it will escalate. Confront and destroy the lippy defiant crap immediately when it crops up.

Idk, I don't sweat this

Idk, I don't sweat this little stuff on EOWE visits, if they want to sit by their dad that they never see then I get it. As a COD I remember wanting to see by dad when I only saw him EOWE. I usually pick a spot far away from him and let them sit together. 4 days a month I can take a back seat to his kids.

I do agree with everyone that

I do agree with everyone that it is my fault for letting my SS win by not being more stern. I am having a very difficult time with facing the fact that my husband is seemingly NOT on my side when it comes to this issue. It sucks because in EVERY other aspect in our lives, we are on the same page. I think I was just so in shock that my husband didn't say anything that I became tongue tied. But I also get what you're saying Stepped in what... I try not to sweat the little stuff like this but when it becomes often, it is really starting to get to me. I am dreading the summer is all I have to say. I will be finding many things to keep me occupied, thats for sure. it will be a loooooooooooooooong 2 months.

The problem is, this "small

The problem is, this "small stuff" morphs into "big stuff" later on. If your husband didn't see a need to tell his kid to move out of your spot, he's not going to be on your side or consider your needs or importance in the future, either.

It doesn't bode well. I hope I'm wrong, but it sounds like his kid comes first.

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