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honeycombs's picture

Dh told me today that i am not my ss12 parent so to stop worring about him !!!!! How do I deal with crap , or do I deal with ?? I don't know ...

honeycombs's picture

yah I know , but I am the one with him everyday having to deal with his bullshit dh works everyday

Anywho78's picture

LOL...little does your DH know, he just opened the door to you disengaging...don't complain, RUN WITH IT!

Stop...
Cooking for HIS kid
Doing HIS kid's laundry
Cleaning up after HIS kid
Running errands for HIS kid
etc, etc, etc

When your DH comes to you with a wounded puppy dog face wondering WHY OH WHY are you not helping, you simply remind him...but DH, you told me not to worry about him because I'm not his parent...

He's an idiot BTW.

branmuffin97's picture

You don't have to be a parent to correct a kid who is being rude and disrespectful. Hell, I'd correct any kid..random stranger kids in the store, if I witnessed them being rude. Disengaging and not being the parent doesn't mean you are a doormat that has to sit back and take a bunch of shit from a kid...no way!

giveitago's picture

Atta girl! I think DH is in for a rude awakening, he deserves it! You don't have to isolate yourself from the kid though, still be friendly etc. and spend time, just do NOT give permission for anything, do anything for or tolerate crap from the little darling.

HadEnoughx5's picture

The other day my DH told me that he was fine with me disengaging and I took it. Consider your DH's words as a blessing, a Christmas gift. Anywho is right, stop worrying about the laundry, cooking and taking care of them...ss is not your kid }:)

emotionaly beat up's picture

You're not to worry about him, you're not his parent, okay good. Then you are not a live in babysitter either. DH had best organise some child care before and after school, during holidays etc., seeing as he goes to work.

If you were employed as a babysitter would DH allow his son to disrespect you and if he did how long does he think this babysitter would stay in his employ. No one should put up with any child's crap without someone putting a stop to it. In this case dad should be getting stuck into son about his behaviour, not telling you to back off, but telling son to smarten up.