He asked me why, so i listed a few reasons... sd being one of them. 

He asked "what issues with sd?" 

I listed a the few most recent issues

"Yea, i get that... i feel kinda the same way.. but dont really know what I  can do about it.. god knows i have talked to her about it. I kinda feel like she goes home, and has nothing to bitch about so she nit picks the most minor things, or distorts something to make it seem bad" (this is dh saying this) 

"Yea, i agree, so im going to try to talk to a counselor to help me figure out how to cope with it, but also im going to back off a bit with her, kinda disengage.  If she asks me things, I'll tell her to talk to you about it, and if she wants to go places, I'll have her ask you. I think that will help with some of the stress on me."

"Ok" (yea, he just said "ok") 

I think he's upset... but he even acknowledges everything she does!