Hi, have you tried getting this little boy checked out by a Dr or therapist? He may have a developmental problem. Have you and your partner been to parenting classes? You sound very young.

The cheating I can't advise on as it's completely unacceptable and you should have left.

Sounds like he may have been affected in-utero and may have neurological disorder due to the drugs his mother took while pregnant with him. He may ecen be still detoxing from the drugs being in his system.

Poor kid and hugs to you all. Has he been medically assessed?

You're feed up with a 6 year old who is suffering from the poor choices mom made while pregnant. However, you stay with (and have another child) with a man who has a history of treating you like garbage.

You use the word "again" over and over. This man (and probably this kid) treats you like this because you have allowed him to. Decide that you're worth more than all this, take your kids, and get out. He can pay child support, y'all can set up visitation--your kids can have their dad in their lives without you living in absolute hell. They love you; they want what's best for you; and you need to model for them how to value yourself. It'll be hard as hell, but in a year's time, you'll be so much better off.

You use the word "again" over and over. This man (and probably this kid) treats you like this because you have allowed him to. Decide that you're worth more than all this, take your kids, and get out. He can pay child support, y'all can set up visitation--your kids can have their dad in their lives without you living in absolute hell. They love you; they want what's best for you; and you need to model for them how to value yourself. It'll be hard as hell, but in a year's time, you'll be so much better off.

First, before anything else, what is your health insurance like? That will determine what specialists you can go to. On your list should be a psychiatrist specializing in child development, the pediatrician who sees the boy, and a family counselor/therapist. The father should be going to a therapist himself to figure out why he does what he does, and, like someone else has said, get him to get a damn vasectomy, because if he can't be responsible with his sperm, he loses the right to use it. Also, please get yourself tested for STDs. I know it's a scary thought but being with someone who continuously cheats opens your up to the possibility of contracting HIV--or worse. There are new forms of antibiotic resistant STDs (like syphilus) and I can tell you it's a painful way to die.

Second, if you're having suicidal thoughts, back and up care for yourself a little bit more, you are likely suffering from postpartum depression, made worse by the difficult situation you're living in. Make an appointment with your OBGYN and let them know about this, your hormones are still out of whack and they may be able to give you something to help it return to normal faster. If you need someone to talk to immediately, instead of resorting to any drastic measures your brain is coming up with, please call 1 (800) 273-8255. It's the National Suicide Hotline Prevention (but don't let that name fool you, they can point you in the right direction for resources you may never know were available for your situation.)

Third, as everyone has told you already, the boy has problems stemming from his mother mother's drug use, her not taking care of herself during pregnancy, and at 2 years old, if he grew up with his mother not wanting him during those precious formative years, he's going to have a host of other problems from that more along with the neuro problems. The psychiatrist/pediatrician can direct you to better resources and help you with managing those issues. Find one who specializes in behavioral modification--they'll give you tips on how to keep a more scheduled and regimented lifestyle (many children with developmental issues feel more secure and therefore behave better with a more scheduled approach, daily/weekly/monthly charts accessible to the child will help him know what to expect at certain times of the day so he's not continuously being bombarded with what he thinks is an unpredictable future.)

Finally, I can't tell you what to do about your partner, as he himself seem to have problems with self control, morality, and values. I'd tell you to leave, but I know it's not that easy. However, I don't know what else to say because I would leave simply because he's putting you and everyone else at risk over and over and over again. He seems to never have had any true consequences for his actions and so he doesn't care what happens to the people around him. I know I would not want to subject my children to him for any longer than necessary. I hope you find the strength to leave because you only get this ONE life, don't waste it being miserable for someone else.