Inlaws as Difficult as Step Family
I have to gripe.....husband and I have been together 22 years. I had a falling out with my inlaws 6 years ago. Basically, sister-in-law jumped to the defense of SSs, feeling I was favoring my bio daughters. It was a rather tragic situation, one that split the family completely. Slowly over the years the cousins have started talking gain nd everyone seems to be geting ovr what happened and wants to move on.
Here my issue....sister-in-law that instigated this, made me very obviously unwelcomed in a social situation with family, the very person who said all these terrible things about me and made me out as the problem is the strength in the family. Anything she says, goes and everyone follows and believes, I tink it's because everyone find it easier to please her that go up against her. She put people down and then chuckles. She jokes with people in a competitive way to top the next person's joke. I cannot stand her.
I got an email from her this weekend.....back track just a wee bit.....father-in-law had been wanting to take all his kid and their spouses on a cruise a year ago. Sister-in-law was put in charge of making all plans. I have had nothing to do with the family since the incident and had no intentions on going on this cruise. I had many years ago when all the caos in the family broke out, apologized for hurting the family, no reply and no apology on their part so I left it lone. Husband had been trying to convince to go on this cruise. Knowing I wasn't welcome I told my husband to have his ister include on all the emails about the cruise, he asked her to, she could not include me which basically spoke louder than words. We neither one went on the cruise.
Back to the email I received this weekend from hteful sister-in-law who claims o be a wonderful, loving Christian.....the email is titled, "Reaching out." (puke) She then writes that he wants to start fresh. Okay, so my apology yars ao wasn't good, it wasn't accepted, she hated me so much she couldn't include on the mails for the cruise, she did and said everything she did and now that SHE decides she has a ounce of goodness in her I am supposed to just at the chance of being her friend? Get this, she has even requested me as "friend" on FaceBook. What a gem!
Whatever they decide is fine but oh no, I cannot. Forget that!
I did reply to her request and I told her I accepted her offer. I did this mostly for what it looks like to the family but I have no intentions to reconnect to hr or anyone else in te family.