Let's begin with SD10. She has lived with us since September of this year. This past Friday she came home from her moms and told me that BM had called me a "F" and a "B" word. I'm fully aware that BM doesn't like me...I don't like her either...but calling me names in front of the kids crosses the line. I called her and asked her if she had a problem with me that needed addressed. She denied calling me a "Fucking Bitch" (which by the way I didn't even tell her what SD said she called me, just that it was a name...can you say guilty lol). I accepted her lie as it wouldn't do any good to argue. I then told her that I felt it best that SD moved back in with her AFTER the school year. The agreement when she came to live with us was that she would return to her mothers after the school year if she was still doing poorly in school and she was in fact still doing poorly. She replied that she'd just take her back after Christmas break. I told her it wasn't going to do any good to keep pulling her out of schools and she said that it would just be easier if she came back after break. Mind you SD was recently diagnosed as being mildly mentally retarded, which explains a lot about her behavior and academic delays. The next day DH called BM to make sure that this is what she wanted and told her the school felt it best if she stayed to rest of the year (she had made some progress, but is still failing the 4th grade). She immediately started acting belligerent and yelling and demanded that DH sign SD out of school immediately and bring her to her. He said no but BM is technically the custodial parent so when she threatened to come get her herself DH agreed to bring her. When her arrived at her house he said that she was never going to let him see the kids again and she was done with my shit. She said she wasn't going to let a woman(me)keep her kids away from their father. She told him that he jumps and does whatever I say and she tried to give him the opportunity to raise his daughter and I ruined it. I was completely floored. It was HER idea to take her now. She put all the blame on me. I text her and asked her why she was blaming me and she wouldn't even answer the question. She just responded by name calling, called me everything under the sun, told me that DH went from classy to trashy...on and on. She even said that her kids hated me and never wanted to come to our house again because of me. Anyway today he asked if he was getting the kids tomorrow and she began her tirade again, at which point I grabbed the phone and said my piece. Long story short, he will be getting his kids tomorrow.

I recently turned her in for receiving food stamps for her daughter while she lived with me as well as her living with her fiance who makes $2000 a week while she lives off the system. I have a feeling this is why she did this but can't prove it. Also I think she can receive a check for SD now that she's been diagnosed as MR. Maybe that's why...it's always money with her.

Moving on, SD15(who is 7months pregnant) recently started speaking to us again. I know deep down it's because she needs things for the baby but whatever, the baby does need things and God knows she isn't able to get them. So I took her out shopping and got pretty much everything she needs to get started out. I spent a pretty big chunk of change. Then when I was on a Facebook yardsale site, I saw that BM2 (who is NOT SD15's mother, she's the mother of SD10 I was talking about above) posted "teen mom due in feb needs everything for baby boy, she has nothing). O...M...F...G. Number 1, it's not her business, number 2 the baby has EVERYTHING. (For the record, I am not friends with either BM on FB, but was able to see her post because she is apparently a member of the facebook yardsale). In the midst of BM2 and me arguing she did say that I'm also the reason his other daughters (i.e SD15) don't speak to DH. SD15 and BM2 are friends on facebook so apparently SD15 has told her that she hates me AND that she has nothing for her baby. I know I shouldn't let it but it PISSES me off! It's true that SD15 didn't speak to us for quite a while because of me though. Because I went and yanked her from her 17 year old boyfriends house, whom her mother was allowing her to LIVE with, BEFORE SHE GOT PREGNANT. Because I tried to prevent her from being a 15 year old mother! But ya know what? I'm not here to be her best friend. It just irks me that she acted like everything was peachy while I was buying her things and then went behind my back and trash talked me to the person I hate the most. I guess that's teenage skids for ya, but it doesn't stop it from hurting.

I am so fed up. I want to disengage and partly have in the past, but I also don't want the kids to think I'm the reason they don't see their father. I see so many adults, even friends of mine, that grew up hating their step parents and blame them to this day for not having a relationship with their other parent. I don't want to be that person, but I don't know how much of this I can put up with.

Well, if you've read this far I applaud you. I just needed to vent so bad.