Kids having to clean up after getting sick cause BM won't?
So my skids are here for the summer. My SD gets sick sometimes from migraines (poor thing), sometimes she makes it to the bathroom and sometimes not. Now she is 10 and my SS is 11. When she gets sick at our house, obviously my DH cleans it up.
The other day my SD got sick and my SS asked DH if he needed to clean up the mess?? It happened in SD's bedroom. My DH said no, I'm her parent and I'll clean it up.
My DH asks my SS, "Why would you clean it up?" SS says, "BM makes me clean up the vomit at her house when SD gets sick, cause she is to tired or she might get sick herself if she sees it."
Holy crap!! Is this some kind of abuse?? I couldn't believe it but I wouldn't put it past BM, she is a lazy, no good, piece of crap!
Any thoughts?? Is this normal? I don't remember my parents making us clean up after our siblings. My DH wants to call BM out on it! I'm afraid of stirring the pot...
That's not normal. Dh might
That's not normal. Dh might as ss10 to get a bug out of sd9s room for her..... But never clean up her vomit. And Dh is a SD-worshipper. But then again.... He doesn't clean up her vomit either, that's left for me, the maid/housekeeper/cook/driver/atm.
At our house she does, but
At our house she does, but she sat up in bed and the motion made her sick, so there wasn't any time to move to the side of the bed.
It went all over her blanket instead which we rinsed off and washed on "heavy duty".
Don't know what it's like at BM's house but I'm sure there is no trash can near by.
Oh gosh no, that is awful. I
Oh gosh no, that is awful. I couldn't imagine having to clean up my sibling's vomit as a child.
Yes I agree with the shitty
Yes I agree with the shitty parenting! But I'm sure if DH calls BM on it, she'll just deny... We explained to SS that at our house, he is a kid and that means that he doesn't clean up after or need to watch or be in charge of SD.
Apparently, SS is put in charge of SD when BM and SF don't want to be bothered by skids.
Makes me sad.
But what can we do??
UPDATE: So DH asked BM and of
UPDATE: So DH asked BM and of course, its the river denial... So we talked with SS about it and explained that if he is told to do it again to say DH told him he didn't have too, and that they would need to speak with DH about it. It might not be the best approach but he shouldn't be forced to do this! DH thinks that now that he called BM out about it that it should stop since we know what is going on!
On top of that they live on a military base and we have no problem calling the military's version of CPS on them!!
We shall see...
I dunno. My mom started this
I dunno. My mom started this with me when I was about 10 or so. I had to clean up after myself if I got sick.
I don't think it's abusive. Provided the kid is old enough to actually handle it.
What's gonna happen when you're 19 and living on your own and puke? Mommy ain't coming by to clean it up....
Sorry, I just re read and I
Sorry, I just re read and I noticed it said SS picks up the mess, not SD. Whoops.
LOL! Yea I understand if it
LOL! Yea I understand if it is your mess, but if it's a siblings mess... :? I just don't agree with it.