I just want you to know that your lifes screw ups are not my fault! I didnt cheat on your once husband for you. Or leave your children for the weekend to go get screwed by a black guy i met on vacation. I didnt let your mother interfere with your marriage or manipulate your kids. I did not divorce you! I did not get into a relationship with a man I didnt know only to be dumped shortly after my divorce went through. I bet you regret it all now! I didnt tell your kids their father had a new family or say nasty things about his wife and kids. Im not the one who made them feel they would never fit in because them being happy else where scared me and made me feel like a failure. Im not the one who called texted and emailed hundreds of times just because I got drunk and needed someone to talk crap to. Im not the one who allowed my kids to bring knives to school even after being told hey he has knives in his bag. Im not the one who was to lazy to check or in denial. Its not my fault! I am the one who talked to your kid about strangers bec you thought she was too young!yes I did! I am not the one who cant get over the damage ive done. or ever admit to a bad decision or to being wrong. I am not the one blaming everyone else. I am none of your business!I am your ex husbands wife and your childrens step mother. You can make your life hard or your life easy. I whisper in his ear and advocate at his side. He will always choose me. So go ahead and talk all you want. tell me that when your children are in MY house they can do as they wish. Allow them to be rude and with out manners. I know mine will not. My kids will not be torn. I will not fight argue or deal with your children unless necessary. Doing so is exausting and a waste of effort. I dont want to be their mother, if I want more children I am very capable of producing them and in my eyes they would be smarter sweeter and more beautiful because they are mine and I would raise them right. Instead of having to clean up after someone like you or even worse having to completely ignore them at times.As long as you enable your children to be slobs disrespectful rude and sarcastic, I will enable mine to be pleasant well mannered happy and productive. As long as you alienate my husband and I, I will reinforce good behavior and he will handle the bad. Which means yes my kids will be treated better than yours because they have been taught to behave and respect ALL adults and in doing so will receive rewards. You can continue to call us late at night, weve learned to shut the ringers off and youre only torturing yourself. Its also good for court so keep it up. You can use the kids as antics to get my husband to your house, but he will not go alone as you request. he is now married and this is a partnership. You can teach the kids to hate me, but tomorrow theyll learn to hate you too! I can not control your actions, hell you cant even control your actions. you will be bitter and you will be problematic until your children are old enough to deal with dad alone, and even then you will find many reasons to call text or write. Some day i can block you, report you and ignore you. Im sure youve been talking your long brainwashing talks. So next time be sensitive and reinforce daddy is not coming home. You obviously can not move on, I see you are broken. But your children can and will if you just let them heal. So instead of telling them he chose me over them or the new versus the old. remember that mine are new to him but old to me but his are New to me! You dont even have to say anything to them, they loved us before you decided I was a threat. before you realized I was here to stay. The only person not in this equation is you. This is why you are so reluctant to let them be kids and have fun. No matter what you say or do, here I will sit and here I will smile because Im doing whats best for all and your doing what makes you feel better. Revenge may feel ok now, but when your kids are grown and can not get jobs or get arrested and put in jail. By then the child support will be gone! Who will bail them out? NOT ME You make sure and tell them that you did your best to ensure that they hated their new family instead of ensuring they had the tools for life. You can make your life easy and just move on and allow your children happiness. Or you can make your life miserable and destroy your children day by day to get back at me. All the while I will sit here with a smile and beautiful children with a husband I love waiting for my new family with open arms.

Dear skids.
I loved you at first, but now your hard to love. I did for you all I do for mine. I stayed up when you were sick, changed your dirty sheets. I brought you to the beach movies and fair. I made time just for you. Joining you in an activity that you enjoyed. I let you share your secrets and didnt tell a soul. but its all done and over until you grow a little more. I know you feel a little weird and things are not the same. but Im sure itd be better if instead of wicked witch you heard just my name. I know your mom is hurting, but selfish acts are not the way. One day youll all look back and think about that day. The day Your dad and I said were getting married and want you to be there too. At first you were excited even planning little things. but after talks with mumma thought that we were wrong. You went from being happy to hurting all along. How strange I find these stories that now come from your mouth, no matter what she says I have had no fault. Your dad didnt leave your mom for me, we hadnt met just yet. But she has kept a secret, and never told you, this I bet. While you were on vacation, sleeping in daddys arms. Momma met a man. In just one night Momma changed your lives! She decided she wanted to stay married but sleep with other guys. She didnt want your dad to leave because he paid the bills. So she went away on weekends and had her secret thrills, and daddy watched you daily took care of the daily routes, then had you on the weekends and it lasted 6 whole months. So daddy did go looking and thats when he met me,not long after daddy moved downstairs. then momma started dating another guy she liked, she wanted dad to take you somewhere so she could stay home with guy#2 and have some fun. But daddy stood up and told her this just wont do. He told her of divorce, hed give a little more time but all her crap was through. Momma didnt like that she wanted her own way. So she told daddy to leave and he left in a week or two. She never thought hed do it, but she gave him no choice! She wouldnt stop her cheating but wanted dad to pay. Im sure her stories different because dad mustve made her cheat. he didnt make her feel loved, he made her feel incomplete. But it never was your fault, you were innocent and sweet! Mommas twist of words they slowly broke your heart. No matter how many i miss you and yes i love you too. Mommas words they stung! Cuz why would she ever lie to you? No reason so it must all be true!