Every time my SD or SS get into trouble or don't like something them say it is my fault. Does anyone else have that problem? I finally had it and went off!!! Here are both the situations
SD14
SD moved in with BM parents last October because she didn't like the rules here with us which were going to school, doing dishes, taking a bath or shower, going to counseling, doing homework and classwork and going to bed before 6am. At BM parents she doesn't have to go to school until the officer came to get her which was after two months. they only let the kids shower once a week as I was told by SS. and no chores. Well we get a call from them saying she feels abandoned and they don't know how much more they can take. So DH says she can move back. They put her on with him and this is the conversation.

SD Hi daddy
DH Hi honey
DH Do you want to come home?
SD No it is all that woman fault
DH What
SD she made me go to school and tried to act like a mother So if you are with her then you will not see me and it is her fault
DH Well that make me sad
SD "laughs"
I kept my mouth shut but inside I was screaming you EVIL BRAT it is your fault you are a total b*#$%.

SS16

Gets caught doing what he did

DH come here and talk to me
SS No as long as she is around you will never have your kids. It is her fault!

This is where I flipped out
Me Oh no you don't I will not let you or any one else blame me anymore. It is not my fault you like little boys. It is not my fault you are a child molester and can't control yourself. It is not my fault you are pure evil.

Probably not the nicest thing to say but the kid needed a wake up call.