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Submitted by sarah1971 on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 11:20am

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Moved out this weekend with very little help from asshole(AKA husband). He was to busy shopping at Macy for "home furnishings" and waiting for his new furniture from Ethan Allen to be delivered. Funny how in the 7 years we were together the ass never even bothered to replace a light bulb but now that hes "in love" hes fixing up the place to be fit for a king (or in his case a queen). I do get some small satisfaction in knowing he is putting himself right back into debt as he does not have a pot to piss in as far as money goes. The day I left he was on the phone laughing/joking with a friend and could not even get off to say a proper goodbye. Funny how you can be with someone for 7 years and have them tell you how wonderful/loving/caring you are then one day they can't even stand to look at you. Even after all my husband has done to me I still love him and feel very sad but him on the other hand has no remorse/guilt or feelings what so ever for me. It just unbelieveable to me how quickly this all went down all in a matter of weeks.

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Submitted by Pantera on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 11:24am

File your divorce paperwork immediately. Do it first. I know you have to wait a year in most states, it doesn't seem like he will protest, so back date it and be done.

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Submitted by Gestalt on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 11:24am

I am so sorry you had to go through that. It's very hurtful when the people we love act as if they don't care.

"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love." -Jennifer Edwards

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Submitted by Squillion on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 11:40am

Please tell me you met with the lawyers.

And also? Screw him. Give it six months and I say you'll see him for the broken pathetic waste of skin he is.

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Submitted by sway1 on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 12:58pm

karma will come back at him...... what comes around goes around.
keep your head held high... you are better than him!

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Submitted by soy_girl on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 8:21pm

Glad to see you are posting...was a bit worried about you....just curious how your H is paying for all his new toys -- not from your joint account I hope -- or worse, on a credit card you will be responsible for half of? not sure if you are in a community property state, but here in CA, if the debt is from before the date of separation, both parties are equally responsible for the debt regardless of what it bought. One way to fix that might be to back date the divorce papers to make sure his bills stay his.

I am gonna have to agree with Squillion -- Screw him! you may have a difficult time at first on your own, but you definitely don't need his BS!

Good luck! (hmm...if you don't backdate the separation date, maybe you could sue for half of his new stuff just to mess with him... Wink )

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Submitted by Conflicted on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 11:29pm

You will look back one day and you will be glad and grateful that he is doing what he's doing. Your life will go on, you will find true happiness and he will hate himself for the mistakes he is making now.... And by that time, you won't care because you will have truly move on.

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Submitted by stuknaz on Wed, 10/07/2009 - 4:11am

Sarah1971,

Your Dh or soon to be DH is an IDIOT. Don't wate anymore tears over this jerk! You will see that this is the best thing that has happened to you. Unfortunately you won't be seeing it today, but you ar ebetter off and YES he will get his!!
Just promise us that when he comes begging back on his hands and knees that you WON'T take him back! Because he will come looking for you after his latest love leaves his trifling ass!
Hang in there and keep in touch!

"And this too shall pass..."

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Submitted by anabihibik on Fri, 10/09/2009 - 11:38pm

Every day will get a little bit better. Those hurt feelings will fade. But, it's ok to own them, acknowledge them, and toss them overboard. That's been the best way for me to handle them. Congrats on moving out!

To every thing there is a season.

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Submitted by Stepmom2Ched on Sat, 10/10/2009 - 2:06am

Sarah, I'm sorry to read that your marriage is ending, but please remember, it's a new beginning for YOU!

Just hoping that the Ethan Allan & Macy's accounts are NOT in your name, or you're not on the account at all. You should post something in your local paper about no longer being responsible for debts made by him as of such and such date.

Get a lawyer, ASAP and stick it to him as much as you can.

If you can get back into the place, stick some shrimp into the curtain rods without his knowledge!!

http://www.snopes.com/love/revenge/shrimp.asp

BWA HA HA!!!

~*~Cheer up! It could be worse.
I cheered up, & it got worse!~*~

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Submitted by ReadySetNot on Sat, 10/10/2009 - 6:48am

Sarah, Good Luck with everything in the up coming time. I'm glad to hear that you are leaving him he dosn't deserve you in the first place.