This is a long story, but I will try to give the cliff notes so I do not cause you to lose patience..I have been dating, and partially living with a wonderful woman my own age....She has a 22 year old (who still lives with her) more on that later...And an 8 year old...Both kids are from separate baby daddy's.... Her ex is an out of work jackass loser, her mother (who lives with her ex, yeah I know....weird) Her sister is a complete white trash out of work piece of shit who lives with her father. The 8 year old is from her current ex... The mother is a complete emotional retard, the sister only calls when she wants something, her dad has Parkinson's but only calls when HE wants something, her 22 year old is gay (don't start bagging on me) but he is one of those sissy emotional feminine gays that will freak if you even look at him wrong...He is extremely dirty, nasty, smells horrible, and is one of the most unkempt lazy ass people I have ever met... Her ex is a complete loser, with a horrible temper (punching holes in walls, breaking doors down, etc.) and has a nasty habit of scheduling shit for the 8 year old on OUR time, and expects us to cater to what he wants the kid to be doing...This is getting old...I guess I will skip to the point...My woman would rather coddle her ex, and not make him angry because she is too worried about causing what she calls "bad air" than to give me a voice and have opinions with regard to what she allows him (and everyone else in her family for that matter) to get away with.

My question is this...Am I an ass because I am getting very tired of feeling like I take a backseat because she cannot stand up to the ex? Am I an ass because I don't think she and her ex need to talk or have contact every day? Am I too intolerant? Or am I normal for feeling like I want to bail...

I am 44, have a successful career, and have no children of my own...

Thoughts?