New and becoming more frustrated...
Hello,
I have been with my SO for going on 3 years, and he has a son who is going to be turning 3, and a BM who for lack of anything better to say doesn't get along with either of us. Everything that either of us do is completely wrong, and stupid for that matter. SO tells me all the time he appreciates me helping and being as connected as I can without overstepping in his opinion his OR her rights as the real parents. But I am constantly a horrible person, either being a "bad parent" or being told I shouldn't be considered a parent at all?!? My rules in our home are apparently more strict that hers, so SO is being told I'm not allowed to discipline SS. I understand that I am not the Mother, nor do I want to be her. But I am not going anywhere, and this situation that SO is in will not be changing, so as much as I just want to scream sometimes I keep my mouth shut because I feel like not doing anything to pick fights will end up better for SS in the future.
I know if it's been like this for thus long it'll probably never get better, and I accept that, but still why do people like to make others lives miserable!?!?!
End Vent!
What's really sad in my
What's really sad in my opinion is that she has EVERYTHING. Certainly more than we do... She gets SS more, he goes to a GREAT daycare thanks to CS, she has a new guy who we are assuming seems really great with SS as well (we're giving him the benefit of the doubt because she won't introduce him and I refuse to let SO say that he's a bad person simply because he is also a 'step parent') and they just bought a house together. So I don't understand why it seems like I get attacked for everything when we try to do as much as possible for SS and work with BM to make SS life as easy as possible.