New and frustrated!! SS3 and autism excuses -I mean diagnosis!
Anyone out here dealing with autism and skid? Frustration is unbelievable!
Diagnosis came about 6 mos ago- prompted by DH (encouraged by me). BM refused to have SS3 evaluated stating that his only issues revolved around divorce. After much pushing, BM agreed to eval (she has sole medical decisions :sick: ) Now she is a parenting expert telling us how to do things. She has SS3 as only child. I have 5 children. Basically the outcome has been this: BM "we don't tell him no because it is a trigger word and he gets upset. He is autistic and doesn't understand." Sorry but isn't no a trigger word for any toddler? I do agree with the diagnosis as I was one of the people that requested evaluation in the first place. I do not believe it is an excuse to not discipline or say that SS3 is always upset during exchanges betweeen parents so he shouldn't have to go.
No can be one of a few things
No can be one of a few things for an autistic child...1. a big trigger word 2. a "what the heck are you talking about, I have no idea what NO is!" or 3. nothing.
For my son for a few years we thought he actually did things on purpose when we told him no...until a speech therapist proved to us he had NO IDEA what NO meant! So, there you go...honestly, being an smom is hard enough...the time and patience that moms of autistic kids need to dedicate to their kids is ALOT...I can't see anyone but a mom doing that or someone who truly only has an SS with autism and no other kids...sigh...not trying to be mean, just being honest.
I do teach my son right from wrong, but the teaching is VERY different than with other kids. Re-direct and SHOW them what to do...they do NOT always understand what NO means. They might not understand much of what you are saying either...