Nope!!
I just got a call from DH. Seems Inbred wants some more money from him. She wants him to pay for half of dPPP ballet classes and half of SS7 baseball.
"What do you think?"
Well I'll tell ya DH. No. You give more than enough CS, maybe she should use that instead of going out almost every damn weekend. Just like when ExH asked if I could help out with BS9 soccer...it's her idea to put her in the ballet or him in baseball. Her idea, her side of town, she can pay for it. Or maybe this will be like when SS7 was in karate and asked you to pay for the first month and the gee, oh...SS7 you're not in karate any more? Were you ever?
Oh, only the intro class to see if you like it. I called the place...the intro class is free of charge and no money is needed unless you sign a contract for at least 6 months.
But dPPP really wants to be a ballerina.
Oh does she...sorry DH with her mother leading the way all dance lessons will do is ensure that when she's 12 she'll be up on a tractor twerking in booty shorts.
(Inbred and gang live on a farm)
So no, I will not pay for half, shoes, etc etc. If we're going to keep going down this road of more money more money gimmie gimmie gimmie I think it would be wise to seperate our money.
I guess his battery died cause now the phone is going strait to voice mail. I sure would have liked to hear his thoughts on that though.
Ballerinas don't eat giant
Ballerinas don't eat giant smarshmallows.
Dance is horribly pricey, my
Dance is horribly pricey, my daughter is a competitive dancer on a team, ahhh!
Lessons for the season 2 hours a day 2 times a week and 6 competitions are $3,000, costumes are 200.00 each, and she needs 2-3 a season, shoes are 50-80.00, and make up hair piece, hair accessories, tights, fake eyelashes all came up to 250.00~300.00 this year and they require 2-3 pair depending on the costume plus a practice pair, plus warm up gear and bag this year, another 150.00 (jacket is 80.00 alone!) and she is now going to Nationals...thats another 575.00...
DH just shakes his head, but ex pays half...
If your concerned about the cash, stay away from competitive dance!!!!
lol
If Inbred actually does put
If Inbred actually does put her in dance I hope she does get famous, maybe then Inbred will stop looking at DH as her cash cow. lol
My stupid husband pays for
My stupid husband pays for half of all extracurricular activities on top of child support in addition to all kinds of other expenses. Bullshit! BM is a greedy c#nt who thinks she deserves to live high class. I will stop here or my blood pressure will skyrocket and this will be a very very long post. Oh, we just argued about the fact he has to pay for$70 parking, gas, food, and spend a day taking SS to grand prix races. This was SS's BM's birthday present to him. Oh wait, she just bought tickets. Ok, will stop here.
I have both the SM and the BM
I have both the SM and the BM side to this in my life. My bios BF has only paid the full CS amount one time in the 4 years it has been ordered. He doesn't see them but 4-6 days a month. Hasn't paid for clothes, activities, school projects, field trips, anything since we separated.
I disagree both as a SM and. BM that this is what CS is for. CS is for daily care of the child. NEEDS. Their part of rent, water, electric, hygiene products, clothes, food. CS is suppose to pay for half of the child's needs. Wants... Not included.
Wants... We pay all wants for both SGD and my bios all field trips, all school camps, my DD gymnastics, my DS karate. BF doesn't even cover is CS.
An active parent truly looking out for their child will want to be a part of the extras. It makes for well rounded people. Even if BF could or would pay $15 towards some of their wants he would show he cares about their personal interests versus his truck and the GF of the week. His GF issue is so bad DD told me, dad can't keep a GF longer then 2 weeks but he always seems to get a new one !!!!
I didn't recieve CS for 4 months. Had gotten Bios almost all back to school stuff. They had out grown shoes and needed socks. I didn't ask for money, I ask BF if he would like to have the experience of being a part of back to school (he never has). I told him I can finish, I have the money but would you like to go and get them new shoes, backpacks, socks, and BS undershirts? Take them, make a day of it. Actually be apart of this with them. He yelled at them the next weekend for 2 hours after he called to yell at me about how this is what CS is for. (I now have an RO)
Sometimes (and trust me I know it is frustrating) but sometimes it is more about making memories with your kids then the money. So make deal, she signs them up and proves she paid for it... BF will take them to pick out their new bat, or their dance costume. Children will remember the time put in more then a check being paid.
I was in dance for 15 years
I was in dance for 15 years before I got pregnant with my first. I know for damn sure that dance is not something you commit your child to if you have no job and don't have the money. She isn't going to put her in dance, she's going to take his money and go oh a shopping spree for herself.
However, I use my CS for my kids extras. That is actually what some of it is for, what ever the child needs including extras. Judges exact words to Inbred when she tried to get more money out of him for that.
She made it baseball because she knows DH hates that game.
My ExH pays his CS, on time every time. I don't ask him for money, for extras, and he and the kids have great memories together. He takes them on vacation every summer. Would it be fair of him to ask me to pay for half the hotel, gas or airfair, or half the money he's going to spend on food for them? No of course that's rediculous. He is making the choice to do this, he can pay for it.
She is making these choices, she can pay for it.
If CP can't afford these
If CP can't afford these extra activities, how about they don't sign them up? They could always talk to the NCP but no the NCP is not obligated to pay for BM's whims.
BM here has started with the activities as a way to use this against DH to get him to engage with her, sit with her at these activities and tells the skids that DH doesn't want them to do xyz.
If I wanted my kids to do an activity I'd be paying for it and I'm technically the NCP. If EXH wants them to do an activity he will be paying for it.
This isn't a nuclear family, BM can't decide for the "family" anymore.
^^^Agree My OBS plays for the
^^^Agree
My OBS plays for the school, I pay for that. The youngest enjoys playing for leagues which is what dad wants so he pays for that. And Inbred did tell DH once that I shouldn't come with him to any of the activities because that's when it should just be about their family. I'm sorry Inbred, maybe you didn't get the memo that once he remarries I become his family and not you.
Desperate women will try anything.