I am really struggling with resentment. I can't even hear this young man (17 yoa) speaking without wanting to set my self on fire to escape this reality. I am in therapy and working with a priest but I'm pregnant so it's extremely hard right now. This child and his mother have caused more harm in my life than anything ever! And I'm an assault survivor so that's saying something!
 

This son of a bitch has played his paren against each other for years! Telling his dad he wants to live with us and that his mom is abusive, then when dad asks to see the kid for his scheduled parenting time the kid tells his mother dad is abisive and begs her not to allow the parenting time. Then when she tells dad she is refusing his time, SS calls dad crying saying he doesn't know why she's keeping them apart and to please do something. Meanwhile he's a spoiled rich kid who take multiple European and tropical vacations a year with his mother and has never been abused in his life by anyone... Needless to say there has be been endless court battles to try and do what each side thinks is right for the kid based on his words. $70k in legal fees in 5 years and we are a lower middle class family. We will probably never fully recover economically. He knew the whole time we were all fighting over lies. His mother won't accept that he's been lying and is still at it. I think she knows but likes things this ways since she was the cheater who broke up her family and now she can act like my husband is some bad guy, also she's kind of an idiot and extremely prideful. We have let go now that we know after catching him red handed and him admitting it all. Well, he won't be honest with her so she still thinks she's saving him from something by constantly bleeding us dry for more and more money and keeping us in court while finding every reason to deny parenting time. 

ever major life event for us has been ruined by this. Our wedding, served court papers 2 days before and had to do a justice of the peace instead because we needed an attorney. The birth of our child, served court papers 3 months prior for an out of state contempt accusation requesting jail. Had to blow my whole nest egg on lawyers to defend DH against straight up false BS. We ended up needing a charity to provide baby items since that cost us thousands of dollars in 3/4 months. We are poor and hardly making it. My husband pays 2x what he's supposed to in CS and we are waiting for a redetermination that of course she is fighting with an attorney meaning more money for us wether in the form of a lawyer for ourselves or accepting the higher CS. Why?! All because of this wrecking ball of a human. I actually got along with his mom prior to him starting all this. His father and I had to relocate out of state for work and that's when it all started. I know she would not be doing all this had it not been for his manipulation because she never had for years when we all got along and SS was a nice little kid and wasn't a physco liar. 

I can't stand him. I actually hate his existence and his mother now and I can't find any peace.